“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Is this BPD?

thecreature

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So ex just emails me after month of NC. She says she cant be with me yada..she loves me etc Tells me to be happy (is she adding insult to injury). Also says Im the love of my life (another insult).

What a joke.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I don't think you can diagnose a person with BPD with just one action/statement. BPD=messed up personality due to messed up childhood. And this only surfaces when you've gotten to know the person intimately for a few months at least.
 

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That is like something a person with BPD would do but is not in itself sufficient. Google BPD and read about it.
 

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thecreature said:
So ex just emails me after month of NC. She says she cant be with me yada..she loves me etc Tells me to be happy (is she adding insult to injury). Also says Im the love of my life (another insult).

What a joke.
She's loss interest, most likely out doing another dude as we speak.
Most likely trying to regain some sympathy (closure) with a response from you. I'll say never reply back and let that eat her up slowly so she can sink deeper into the dark abyss forever wondering, well that's what I would do since I'm a sick minded young man.
That alone tho, I can't tell if she's BPD without more info.
 

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So serve that bvllsh!t right back to her.

OMG, that is exactly how I feel, too! Such epic sadness! Hard...to type...through all the tears....


If she has bpd, this will make her think she has you right where she wants you, so she'll leave you alone. If she does not have bpd, she will be put off and leave you alone. Either way it is a win.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dont even answer it

let her stew
 
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