"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is this BPD?

thecreature

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So ex just emails me after month of NC. She says she cant be with me yada..she loves me etc Tells me to be happy (is she adding insult to injury). Also says Im the love of my life (another insult).

What a joke.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Contrails

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I don't think you can diagnose a person with BPD with just one action/statement. BPD=messed up personality due to messed up childhood. And this only surfaces when you've gotten to know the person intimately for a few months at least.
 

Driggs

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That is like something a person with BPD would do but is not in itself sufficient. Google BPD and read about it.
 

SemperDJ

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thecreature said:
So ex just emails me after month of NC. She says she cant be with me yada..she loves me etc Tells me to be happy (is she adding insult to injury). Also says Im the love of my life (another insult).

What a joke.
She's loss interest, most likely out doing another dude as we speak.
Most likely trying to regain some sympathy (closure) with a response from you. I'll say never reply back and let that eat her up slowly so she can sink deeper into the dark abyss forever wondering, well that's what I would do since I'm a sick minded young man.
That alone tho, I can't tell if she's BPD without more info.
 

Bible_Belt

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So serve that bvllsh!t right back to her.

OMG, that is exactly how I feel, too! Such epic sadness! Hard...to type...through all the tears....


If she has bpd, this will make her think she has you right where she wants you, so she'll leave you alone. If she does not have bpd, she will be put off and leave you alone. Either way it is a win.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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dutchmaster

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dont even answer it

let her stew
 
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