"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is this AFC behavior?

BlackDragon

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1) If a girl drop something on the floor in a classroom and you pick it up for her.

2) Walking with a girl and letting her entering open doorways first.

3) Holding the door for some randam girl
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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rgeere

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1) If a girl drop something on the floor in a classroom and you pick it up for her.

Yes


2) Walking with a girl and letting her entering open doorways first.


Sometimes



3) Holding the door for some randam girl


Sometimes


Remember that whether the girl sees these as weak motions on your parts depends upon if she is looking at you as a strong person doing mediocre things or a weak person doing subjective things.
 

Best friends? NAY

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If you are doing it to be nice I say they wouldn't....If you are doing it to try to make her like you then yes.
 

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doing these things are 2nd nature to me. I usually dont smile when I do em, I just do it like it was nothing.
 

Le Parisien

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1)
NO unless you try to talk to her after that while blushing at the same time.

2)
NO, read above.

3)
NO, read above.

I would do all the three things whether it's a girl or a guy or a Martian as long as they are nice, it's simple courtesy. But I won't go out of my way to do it though.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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cactus3178

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Exactly. Just common courtesy....unless a girl drops her books and you run across the room to help her. That'd be retarded :)

You can be a 'gentleman' without being AFC. Just use your head....you don't have to kiss any chick's ass to be polite.
 

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There is nothing wrong with being nice. In fact if a girl drops her stuff (assuming its near you) picking up for her can give you a great opener.

(But please don't run halfway across the room to do it!)
 

Sato21m

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Originally posted by BlackDragon
1) If a girl drop something on the floor in a classroom and you pick it up for her.

2) Walking with a girl and letting her entering open doorways first.

3) Holding the door for some randam girl
You are just being a man there is nothing wrong with the above you treat the right at your way and by doing those 3 things you mentioned you don't come as an afc just as a gentleman.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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