"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
is this a yes or no
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
DonGorgon
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yes but you need better planning and better game.. she is not very hyped about the date or you..JPlaya said:Me:Hey want to go to this place next week
her: hmm what day
Me: I guess any of these days
her: One of the days can't work cause of work, but the others prob can
Me:k so what about this day
her: As of right now I think that could work
BlackMack177
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Iceberg said:Man, I hate to be the negative di*khead on the site, but you are a total spaz. Some people just shouldn't procreate.
Text her and say "Next thursday." It will neither increase nor decrease her interest in you. Either she likes you or she doesnt. This one goddamn text will not change that.
The End.
I agree with this
calm the hell down man. Are you going to die if she flakes or something? Loss your home? get charged a flaker's fee? Become a slave? No? then why are you so concerned?
My guess is that you have seen this behavior with this chick before and don't know how to handle it. A chick flaking is not worth your time. Tell her straight up, "look. Are we doing this or not because if not then there is no point to us continuing". I've said this before and either the chick will get with the program or she will not. To which is she doesn't then she wasn't that into you in the first place. Not a hair on your head will be harmed and you should still be able to walk good enough to move on to the next chick.
Don't read too much into her texts. If she says yes,ok,sure, anything along those lines then that would be a positive too me. You can't hear a person's tone over text and just because she's into you doesn't mean every text will be followed by a billion smilies and xoxoxoxoxo's. My biggest plate at the moment responds to me with one word texts all the time and yet loves to hang out with me. If yo want to convo then call her. You want a book response then read erotic fiction...
seriously, if a chick flakes repeatedly it means
1. she's busy
2. she has a dude
3. she's just using you for attention
all of which mean you are not too high on her priority list and should probably not waste your time worrying about her.
Have a life besides going out with her and you won't even worry about her flaking. She'll be an after thought just like the sh1t you took this morning.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.