"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
is this a yes or no
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DonGorgon
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yes but you need better planning and better game.. she is not very hyped about the date or you..JPlaya said:Me:Hey want to go to this place next week
her: hmm what day
Me: I guess any of these days
her: One of the days can't work cause of work, but the others prob can
Me:k so what about this day
her: As of right now I think that could work
BlackMack177
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Iceberg said:Man, I hate to be the negative di*khead on the site, but you are a total spaz. Some people just shouldn't procreate.
Text her and say "Next thursday." It will neither increase nor decrease her interest in you. Either she likes you or she doesnt. This one goddamn text will not change that.
The End.
I agree with this
calm the hell down man. Are you going to die if she flakes or something? Loss your home? get charged a flaker's fee? Become a slave? No? then why are you so concerned?
My guess is that you have seen this behavior with this chick before and don't know how to handle it. A chick flaking is not worth your time. Tell her straight up, "look. Are we doing this or not because if not then there is no point to us continuing". I've said this before and either the chick will get with the program or she will not. To which is she doesn't then she wasn't that into you in the first place. Not a hair on your head will be harmed and you should still be able to walk good enough to move on to the next chick.
Don't read too much into her texts. If she says yes,ok,sure, anything along those lines then that would be a positive too me. You can't hear a person's tone over text and just because she's into you doesn't mean every text will be followed by a billion smilies and xoxoxoxoxo's. My biggest plate at the moment responds to me with one word texts all the time and yet loves to hang out with me. If yo want to convo then call her. You want a book response then read erotic fiction...
seriously, if a chick flakes repeatedly it means
1. she's busy
2. she has a dude
3. she's just using you for attention
all of which mean you are not too high on her priority list and should probably not waste your time worrying about her.
Have a life besides going out with her and you won't even worry about her flaking. She'll be an after thought just like the sh1t you took this morning.
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