"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is this a **** test?

EyeBRollin

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Went out with this chick for two dates. She is a potential plate but we haven't had sex yet. Lot's of making out both times. Anyway, for the third date she volunteers to come over and cook for me at the end of our date (I didn't bring it up). I played it off and went home.

Less than 24 hours later, she sends a text asking when she can come over. I respond with Saturday. Today, she texts me the following:

HB: I'm concerned
Me: ?
HB: I'm worried about how touchy feely you get.
HB: If I come over, you understand that I'm not going to sleep with you, right?
Me: Not a text conversation.
HB: True
HB: Call Me
<3 hours later>
HB: Or not

I see the situation as a win win... because if she comes over, cooks, and doesn't **** me.. I still get a free home-cooked meal out of it. Either way, I think this sounds so rediculous I haven't bothered to respond. I honestly don't think anything good can come from responding to it. Thoughts?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"You understand I'm not going to sleep with you, right?" = "I really want your c0ck but don't want to look like a slvt, so hopefully you don't do anything because I won't be able to control myself and will end up fvcking you."
 

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"You understand I'm not going to sleep with you, right?" = "I really want your c0ck but don't want to look like a slvt, so hopefully you don't do anything because I won't be able to control myself and will end up fvcking you."
Yea that's what I figured but do I bother responding?
 

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Anti Slut Defense ("ASD").
 

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Also, if you do end up railing her, and you likely will, try to get a text message from her at least implying that she did it and enjoyed it. Protects you later if she tries to play the rape card. Not saying she will do that, but in this day and age it never hurts especially after she has SAID she doesn't want sex. Example I might do:

LL: Damn girl we rocked my house so hard last night it moved the house I live in a different county now!
HB: lol yeah it was amazing no guy has ever made me finish 3x before
LL: Love to have you back over but I will have to figure out what my new address and let ya know
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Quoting chateau heartiste:

"When she says annoying or stupid sh!t

Follow the 80/20 rule. 80% of the time, ignore her or change the subject."
 

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dont think its a sh1t test , i think its just her being genuinley confused because your not speaking to her like all the other bare guys blowing her phone up

i like the way you speak to her in your messages its direct and too the point , however you may want to lighten the tone JUST a touch as it does seem a little too stiff especially at this stage in the game
 

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Went out with this chick for two dates. She is a potential plate but we haven't had sex yet. Lot's of making out both times. Anyway, for the third date she volunteers to come over and cook for me at the end of our date (I didn't bring it up). I played it off and went home.

Less than 24 hours later, she sends a text asking when she can come over. I respond with Saturday. Today, she texts me the following:

HB: I'm concerned
Me: ?
HB: I'm worried about how touchy feely you get.
HB: If I come over, you understand that I'm not going to sleep with you, right?
Me: Not a text conversation.
HB: True
HB: Call Me
<3 hours later>
HB: Or not

I see the situation as a win win... because if she comes over, cooks, and doesn't **** me.. I still get a free home-cooked meal out of it. Either way, I think this sounds so rediculous I haven't bothered to respond. I honestly don't think anything good can come from responding to it. Thoughts?
she just doesnt want you to think she is a *****, or you expect her to act like one. if u bang a girl in 3 dates she is a *****. treat her how you want her
 

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All true....

When a woman says "We're not having sex." what she really means is "We are having sex unless you do something stupid to talk me out of it."

When she comes to your place that is code for sex. She just wants to make sure you aren't tearing at her clothes when she walks in the door. Just play it cool... escalate slowly 2 steps forward.. 1 back.
 

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Haven't spoken to her since. Between that exchange and some of the things she said on our last date, I concluded that she isn't really worth messing with. I put her in the "ex" category, should she change her mind in the future.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If she elaborates or points out on something and says you are not getting this. Then u should definitely go for that thing because you are 200% getting that thing but she is just doing it for her defence so that she doesnt looks like a slut .
 
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