"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I met a girl the other day at a party, and she did all of the following. Signs of interest or just friendly?

*A girl seems to intentionally, but conservativelly, following you around or sitting around where you currently are sitting.

*She finds an excuse to invade your personal space somehow by pressing herself up against you to the point to where you feel every little detail of the front part of her body.

*Waits around for you when she knows you are about to leave, gives her hand out to you, and says something to the effect of "Maybe we will see each other around" or similar line.

What do you guys think? She's sort of cute and petite, so I'm thinking about inviting her to go somewhere with me. Do you think I have any chances?
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sounds positive to me. I'd certainly act on it!
 

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Originally posted by rgeere
*Waits around for you when she knows you are about to leave, gives her hand out to you, and says something to the effect of "Maybe we will see each other around" or similar line.
Those are all good signs but this one in particular is her way of saying "C'mon buddy ask me out already!"

Seize these opportunities. You can't second guess yourself. Always be closing (number, date, kiss, etc.)

Next time you'll do better.
 

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Slickster is right. When she said that you should have responded with something to the effect of: "If you give me your number we can arrange something" or "I'm free on [day], do you want to go somewhere/do something?"
 

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I just saw her out in the hallway. Didn't really say anything to her, just walked by.

I don't think I messed up with her entirely. If anything I think I might have communicated to her that I wasn't interested.
This of course doesn't mean that I'm not, but I think she may feel this way.

At the party I didn't treat her diffrently than anyone else despite the signs. When she waited around and held out her hand I shook it and said "maybe" (in a positive neutral tone).

Maybe there was something else I could have done (asked her out, etc.). Need to find the right timing for it.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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"What do you guys think? She's sort of cute and petite, so I'm thinking about inviting her to go somewhere with me. Do you think I have any chances?"

LOL!
You don't get it do you?

It seems to me your AFC and past experiences/insecurities are holding you back.

OF COURSE YOU GO FOR IT!




DDUUUUUUUHHHHH!!
You sound like me several years ago!
 

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Originally posted by PizDoff
"What do you guys think? She's sort of cute and petite, so I'm thinking about inviting her to go somewhere with me. Do you think I have any chances?"
LOL!
You don't get it do you?
It seems to me your AFC and past experiences/insecurities are holding you back.
OF COURSE YOU GO FOR IT!
DDUUUUUUUHHHHH!!
You sound like me several years ago!

Never underestimate a good swift kick in the rear. I'd be doing that to myself if I don't go out and do something with this girl.

Thanks.
 

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Careful,
Same thing happened to me. Asked the girl for her number and she hesitated. I knew it was too good to be true. Next time I met her, she gave me a cold shoulder.
 

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Don't wait too long. She may think that you're not interested, or gay.
 

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Right around your second hint I would've realized she was waving me around third base and I'd be making out with her. Why are you stalling again?

-Cyrano
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by rgeere
I met a girl the other day at a party, and she did all of the following. Signs of interest or just friendly?

*A girl seems to intentionally, but conservativelly, following you around or sitting around where you currently are sitting.

*She finds an excuse to invade your personal space somehow by pressing herself up against you to the point to where you feel every little detail of the front part of her body.

*Waits around for you when she knows you are about to leave, gives her hand out to you, and says something to the effect of "Maybe we will see each other around" or similar line.

What do you guys think? She's sort of cute and petite, so I'm thinking about inviting her to go somewhere with me. Do you think I have any chances?
If you think she's interested, make a move. Don't hesitate. If you sense any interest level (a good one), make a move.
 

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Yeah, those are IOIs if you described them correctly.

Of course, if I'm reading in between the lines correctly, you tooled yourself over by acting like a total dork AFC.

Book up on anti-flake tactics before you call the bytch up. Worst case scenario, she's feeling that she gave you IOIs in which case A) she realized you're a total loser tool and she'll totally deny giving you IOIs because she doesn't want to be lowered to your loser Value level OR or B) you're not interested in her and she'll try to salvage her pride and put up her ASD shields so she isn't used for her pvssy.

Be prepared with anti-flake spray.
 
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