"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is this a shyt test?

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going out with this girl tomorrow for drinks, haven’t seen her for a long time. Today she sends me a text with a picture of her friend and says “she’s single”. How does one respond to this? And yes I’m interested in the girl I’m going for drinks with (who is also single) not the friend.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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going out with this girl tomorrow for drinks, haven’t seen her for a long time. Today she sends me a text with a picture of her friend and says “she’s single”. How does one respond to this? And yes I’m interested in the girl I’m going for drinks with (who is also single) not the friend.
Yes.

Play the "loyal I'm on a date with you guy" card

Charming, "I'm sure she'll meet somebody she'll like soon"
 

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Not sure I would still meet the chick you are interested in if she is trying to hook you up with her friend??? Seems like a waste of time with you paying the dinner/drinks tab.

If the friend is hot ask if she wants to switch places with her tonight lol.
 

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going out with this girl tomorrow for drinks, haven’t seen her for a long time. Today she sends me a text with a picture of her friend and says “she’s single”. How does one respond to this? And yes I’m interested in the girl I’m going for drinks with (who is also single) not the friend.
Hate it when girls do this sh*te, lol.
 

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Yes.

Play the "loyal I'm on a date with you guy" card

Charming, "I'm sure she'll meet somebody she'll like soon"
I used this response. She didn’t even acknowledge the answer, the conversation just carried on as it had. Then she asks me “by the way, what kinda girl you into?” Lol
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I used this response. She didn’t even acknowledge the answer, the conversation just carried on as it had. Then she asks me “by the way, what kinda girl you into?” Lol
Yeah it's a trick, I don't know if it's coming from insecurity but she's checking to see if you have interest in her or whether you'd jump on the next girl in a flash. Of course you tell her what she needs to hear without falling for the trick. Fall for the trick and she ejects you (confirming her insecurity that you weren't really into her/are a player)

It reminded me of a similar situation years ago, met a girl in a bar on Sunday afternoon (out from night before) kind of hit it of and sorted logistics back to hers, she wanted to hit her local bar on the way back where her friends where (male and female). Introduced and chatting and she went off to bathroom or whatever, one of her female friends got very close to me......start complimenting me and propositioning me.......I thought something was off as she was very forward and it was her friend....smelt a set up so said out loud...."nah I came with "ella" and I'm leaving with "ella" "......

..they all thought I was a "genuine stand up bloke" after that.

had i taken the bait.......out the bar door and home alone
 

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It means her friend probably has told her she likes you and told her friend to "hook her up" or gauge your interest.
 
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