"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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is this a red flag?

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my bro likes this chick. man, i should say he's hooked. he gets so nervous around her when they talk, and he thinks she's so fine.

i told him to go for it, and not to hype her up too much as to put her higher than himself. from what i hear and see she seems like a pretty nice girl, and tons of guys are chasing her, and she seems to show a particular interest in him. she talks to him and initiates contact....that is until i got on facebook with him

he was showing me her pics, and she's hot. but i might have noticed something. she has a lot of party pics, and about half of them consist of her drunk making out with other chicks, or doing very suggestive things with them. he just glanced over them, and blew it off when i questioned it.

this looks like a warning sign to me? should i warn him of this? I don't want him to end up getting played or hurt again like in the past. he has major trust issues and not very successful with chicks.

what's your take?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sounds to me like he is after your prototype american chick, who these days seem to only party and make out with other chicks because it gives her social proof AKA attention wh0re.

Don't do nothing. He may very well have the skills to be getting some and be happy with this girl (either short or long terms) and he may also crush and burn but the important thing is that HE IS GOING TO EXPERIENCE THIS ON HIS OWN AND LEARN FROM IT.

If you try to interfere, he will blame your ass for trying to C0ckblock him. Let him be. Support him and give him advice if he asks you too but don't stop him from trying to get some ass.
 

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X-ecution said:
my bro likes this chick. man, i should say he's hooked. he gets so nervous around her when they talk, and he thinks she's so fine.

i told him to go for it, and not to hype her up too much as to put her higher than himself. from what i hear and see she seems like a pretty nice girl, and tons of guys are chasing her, and she seems to show a particular interest in him. she talks to him and initiates contact....that is until i got on facebook with him

he was showing me her pics, and she's hot. but i might have noticed something. she has a lot of party pics, and about half of them consist of her drunk making out with other chicks, or doing very suggestive things with them. he just glanced over them, and blew it off when i questioned it.

this looks like a warning sign to me? should i warn him of this? I don't want him to end up getting played or hurt again like in the past. he has major trust issues and not very successful with chicks.

what's your take?

Maybe he should ask her out and wait for a "yes" first because if she says "no", problem solved!
 

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DJDamage said:
Sounds to me like he is after your prototype american chick, who these days seem to only party and make out with other chicks because it gives her social proof AKA attention wh0re.

Don't do nothing. He may very well have the skills to be getting some and be happy with this girl (either short or long terms) and he may also crush and burn but the important thing is that HE IS GOING TO EXPERIENCE THIS ON HIS OWN AND LEARN FROM IT.

If you try to interfere, he will blame your ass for trying to C0ckblock him. Let him be. Support him and give him advice if he asks you too but don't stop him from trying to get some ass.
I have to go with this one right here. I tried to tell a friend some advice on a girl once and it didn't work. He completly ignored what I said to him and he got burned....
 
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