"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Is this a potential BPD chick??

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Let us know how it turns out. Are you aware that the symptoms don't appear for 3 to 4 weeks? Until then you won't know. Once you do know she already has you where she wants you.

By the way, does she have an ulra-sexy, Marilyn Monroe type of voice (almost a baby voice)? That's very common in most of them.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Donno, haven't talked with her yet but will report back.

EDIT:

Ah, sh*t. Sorry to waste everyone's time with this. Looks like it's not going to happen. She dropped the fact that she's got roommates who "don't appreciate guests at night," and I don't actually have a home at this point (I sleep on couches), so that'll obviously never work. I cancelled our date.

Dammit!! Was looking to experience my first BPD.
 
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Update: Ever since I told the chick I didn't want to go out with her she's been blowing up my phone. LOL, can't say it's surprising, but it's always funny. She sent some pics and asked me out for the next night. I said no.

Kind of sad, really. The girl has an 8 face and either a 7 or 8 body. If I keep blowing her off it may turn her on so much she'll bang one out in the back of a car or something. :)
 

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Zarky said:
and I don't actually have a home at this point (I sleep on couches)
Couches are usually in homes. So whose homes are you sleeping in?
 

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Dude no offense, but if you want to experience BPD, you are a ****ing idiot. Don't take it personally, just the truth.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Die Hard said:
Couches are usually in homes. So whose homes are you sleeping in?
Mostly ex-girlfriends who want to get back together with me, oftimes in my office... can't really bring a chick back to either of those places.
 

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Why don't you have your own place?
 

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Thats some scary ****. I never knew what a "BPD" was.
I' think i've been in a relationship with one a few years back & was texting one four months ago. **** I must attract them lol.
Top advice guys. Thanks.
 

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Actually, I've always liked couches more than beds for having sex. They're often more stable, you can use the backside and the armrests for suport etc.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Zarky said:
cause I'm f*ckin broke
You're in no position to play with the fire of a BPD. You are even more vulnerable in your present circumstances. If you see BPD symptoms in a woman you'd better run. Many men have been financially broke and climbed out of it, but a BPD will affect you on levels you don't even know exist. She'll psychologically toss you around like a rag doll and stomp on your carcass.
 

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This people will constantly accuse you of cheating and are very jealous to the the extent it will be very difficult to spin other plates. The most dangerous BPDs are the very rich ones who happen to shower you with very expensive gifts and stuffs on your wishlist.

They never want to sit and discuss a problem with you because they seem delighted in seeing you worried. This people can really ***** about.. Always talking about their good deeds and how other people have taken them for granted. But what I have really come to notice is they are repelled and at the same time attracted to men who can stand their grounds and dictate the terms of the relationship even though they often dislike it.

But the question here is can you really stand your ground when the emasculation process begins ? When they start calling you out on your flaws constantly. They love it when you are open with them as that way they can get to exploit your weaknesses.
 

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Zarky said:
haha well, guess we won't see with this girl anyway.
Just curious, did she speak with tha baby-like, Marilyn Monroe voice?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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All these stories of BPD girls are terrifying. I've never experienced but I know a girl I went to high school with who fits those descriptions perfectly. High pitched, baby-like Marilyn Monroe voice, publicizes how much she is in love with her boyfriends and going to marry them after only a few weeks of dating. Acts like she's completely stable but then when the man dumps her attacks any and everybody who makes contact with the ex.

Scary **** guys, why is it so hard to just end it when you realize they are stage 5 clingers.
 

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unfortunately i got to this thread late. but to add my 2 cents, i would've encouraged you to meet up with her (as you planned to do anyway). my reasoning-you have nothing to lose on a few dates and you seeming like a smart dude i'm sure you wouldn't have let her take advantage of you if she was crazy or gold-digging. btw, great job blocking her from trying to make the date at an expensive place.


and it was funny how you became dubious at her "slash" job description. i feel the same way. people who do that tend to portray some dishonesty

btw, i left san diego for dc a year and a half ago. grew up in sd. i miss the socal climate and topography
 

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She sounds more like a loser than a crazy *****. But those are the kind of women you're going to find online. Nothing she said hints at anything other than her being trash... Hence, why Ms. HB8 is on PoF in the first place. Actually reminds me of the loser women I used to meet at bars and parties.
 
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