"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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is this a missed opportunity?

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ok so i was with this girl a few nights ago, we had a good time together, she came back to mine n we kissed for quite a bit

anyway we were going to have sex i think (it was going there anyway) but i kinda messed it up i think

im a virgin atm, n i told her that after we'd been in bed for a while. n i also said i didnt wanna do anything that night (even tho i kinda did want to.. i just had little confidence), stupid thing to say i know! it just came out tho

i guess i said it tho cos i kinda liked this girl, she was cool, n if i did it badly or something then i probs wouldnt see her again...... afc i know! .... but i'd prefere to lose the v to someone im gonna see again, someone decent.

would a girl appreciate the honesty of that^^ or just think you were weird or something?

also, she flaked on me tonight when we were gonna go to the pub, said she was tired and she 'might see me tomorrow'. would a girl really cancel cos of that if they were into you?? i have acute insomnia atm, but im still up for it :D

is it likely that she's just lost interest or something?

shall i call her again anytime and re-schedule, or just ignore her unless she calls me?

any advice and ideas would be great

thanks
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Wouldn't you like to know? ;)
Dude, ALWAYS have confidence in yourself. Know why? 'Cos your a MAN, and a DJ. Always remember that, you think about all those men who AREN'T being laid, and then there's you with the elite, us. Think about all the women who want to jump your bones and fvck you man. have CONFIDENCE, 'cos you ARE the ****!
To the point, this MIGHT be a missed oppurtunity, I'd say give it another go, and see what happens, but please for your sake man, dont spend time dwelling on her, you've got so many other women wanting to fvck you, you aint got time to worry about one girl.


Peace out

Ben ;)
 
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thats actually made me feel well better already man
thanks dude

im gonna go pub and pick up a hottie
brb
 
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Hey Randalll,

See the thing is i can 100% see where your comming from with what you said.

But really if you sleep with her i don't think she'd feel bad about it aslong as your were respectful and did'nt ditch her or not talk to her ever again.

but yeah your right...if i found a girl i REALLY liked i guess i would'nt wanna mess it up...but i've not come across that scenario just yet.

Demonic
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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well which part of it was it that i screwed it up.. telling her i was a virgin, and didnt want to do anything that night?
yeah that was probably a mistake, but im inexperienced, and i admit it, i was a little nervous. but tbh, she's only 17 right now, and she's quite vulnerable i think (guys have cheated on her before), so wouldnt that make her appreciate an honest guy like me?
i mean, cant a guy get to know a girl a bit better before having sex with them? (i know what people are gonna reply to that btw..) but i'd actually prefere doing it that way. you'll call me afc.. but im not anymore really (have moments occassionally). i go out a lot, have good friends etc, and i know that women like me. i'd just prefere to find one i like as well, and that i'm going to see again. im not saying i want to be in a relationship with them or anything before having sex, but i'd much prefere it if it had some meaning, and memory.

do you think her young age would be likely to make her different than most of the women you guys know?
 
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randalll said:
but tbh, she's only 17 right now, and she's quite vulnerable i think (guys have cheated on her before), so wouldnt that make her appreciate an honest guy like me?
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NO.
:cuss:

It will make her appreciate how sweet and nice you are and what a great friend you are.
If you have a problem with her being 17 then next her.
 
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but a lot of women do like nice guys, right?
im not a predictable, boring nice guy, they dont like them.
we had a laugh the other night, i got on well with her.
and since that's the case, she wouldnt say to herself that she's not gonna see me again because i dont have that bad boy aura about me, is she?
women like a happy guy, a guy they can talk to about stuff, right?
i was definately happy and confident with her, even in bed (before telling her i was a virgin)
..and even after that we carried on making out, and kinoing, she initiated it as well. and she then said that i was unfair because i said i didnt wanna have sex that night. thats the part i fail at, i dread messing up that first time, and im just clueless about it atm really.
 
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and i dont have a problem with her being 17, i mean.. im only two years older and i look 17
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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i wouldnt have a problem with a 17 year old.
 
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