MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Is this a good way to meet women?
- Thread starter MatureDJ
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
Wow
I was shocked to learn that this dude lives in my city. Granted OKC is no LA or NYC, but there are enough HBs here to go around without having to succumb to this. Dude needs to get out, go to Brick town (our entertainment district) or something.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
darkstarrr
Senior Don Juan
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kind of sad.
anyway, i have been bombarding POF with mass messages and have a 2.5% success rate for meetups.
in addition i've become a regular at barnes a noble and starbucks. they flock there.
i do go to a bars once in a while and play some pool and order an appetizer and a beer and try to meet girls there to. start up convos etc
those are some other ways to meet women that i would do right before if i ever got to the point in the OP.
anyway, i have been bombarding POF with mass messages and have a 2.5% success rate for meetups.
in addition i've become a regular at barnes a noble and starbucks. they flock there.
i do go to a bars once in a while and play some pool and order an appetizer and a beer and try to meet girls there to. start up convos etc
those are some other ways to meet women that i would do right before if i ever got to the point in the OP.