"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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is this a good sign?

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Just went out to dinner on my first date with this chick. I was hella tired that night cause I worked graveyard the night before, so I warned her to slap me if i fell asleep, she laughed. But anyway the date went well and she pretty much talked on and on and being AFC by pretty much telling me her whole life story, i didn't really talk much and she kept asking me about myself and whenever i started talking she just like took over the convo again. i'm assuming this is a good sign, but also am thinking that i might have bored her cause i didn't talk much, but also not revealing much is a good thing right? Any help appreciated.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I believe the usual method for finding out if a chick enjoyed the first date is to ask her on a second one.
 

Pimp-sicle

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Originally posted by blienk
I believe the usual method for finding out if a chick enjoyed the first date is to ask her on a second one.

LOL....I could just smell the sarcasm in you voice, whether you intended it to be that way or not....:D


PIMP
 

Sisko

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I think she liked your date.
Girls generally tend to end the date as quickly as posibble and shorten the convo (with general answers "yes" and "no", one word answers).
Yours was picking the convo up :)
That is generally a good sign.
 

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Girls who are blabber mouthes tend to talk talk talk till their blue in the face to anyone who'll listen. They crave the audience. Sitting there and doing nothing is no sure way they'll like you.

Did you smile throughout the ordeal or even pretended that you were listening intently when u weren't? What you could have done was be ****y and funny and bust her on everything she said. If what she says starts to bore you, just can pretend to fall asleep and snore out loud... This will hopefully get you a playful punch and a bit of leverage to transition into some kino..
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"she pretty much talked on and on"

Sounds like a normal girl to me. :)
 

Ebach

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Humans are not as rational as you think they are so stop trying to rationalize every single situation. Important thing is, you were with this girl, had fun, and that's it. You can call her again when you get a chance and see if she's interested for another interesting evening out there. That's it.
 

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Well......I don't see you had any humour, C+F or kino there.


I wouldn't say it's a good sign, at the very least in a relationship/**** buddy think there should be good communication going both ways. I DO recognise you were tired and didn't give a fvck, I've totally been there, but at least TRY to put some humour in?
 

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all the advice/comments given here is bad. dude, we're not mind readers to analyze and decode what went on, cause we don't.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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