"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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is this a good sign?

vanillasky

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Just went out to dinner on my first date with this chick. I was hella tired that night cause I worked graveyard the night before, so I warned her to slap me if i fell asleep, she laughed. But anyway the date went well and she pretty much talked on and on and being AFC by pretty much telling me her whole life story, i didn't really talk much and she kept asking me about myself and whenever i started talking she just like took over the convo again. i'm assuming this is a good sign, but also am thinking that i might have bored her cause i didn't talk much, but also not revealing much is a good thing right? Any help appreciated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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blienk

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I believe the usual method for finding out if a chick enjoyed the first date is to ask her on a second one.
 

Pimp-sicle

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Originally posted by blienk
I believe the usual method for finding out if a chick enjoyed the first date is to ask her on a second one.

LOL....I could just smell the sarcasm in you voice, whether you intended it to be that way or not....:D


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Sisko

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I think she liked your date.
Girls generally tend to end the date as quickly as posibble and shorten the convo (with general answers "yes" and "no", one word answers).
Yours was picking the convo up :)
That is generally a good sign.
 

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Girls who are blabber mouthes tend to talk talk talk till their blue in the face to anyone who'll listen. They crave the audience. Sitting there and doing nothing is no sure way they'll like you.

Did you smile throughout the ordeal or even pretended that you were listening intently when u weren't? What you could have done was be ****y and funny and bust her on everything she said. If what she says starts to bore you, just can pretend to fall asleep and snore out loud... This will hopefully get you a playful punch and a bit of leverage to transition into some kino..
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Mazman

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"she pretty much talked on and on"

Sounds like a normal girl to me. :)
 

Ebach

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Humans are not as rational as you think they are so stop trying to rationalize every single situation. Important thing is, you were with this girl, had fun, and that's it. You can call her again when you get a chance and see if she's interested for another interesting evening out there. That's it.
 

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Well......I don't see you had any humour, C+F or kino there.


I wouldn't say it's a good sign, at the very least in a relationship/**** buddy think there should be good communication going both ways. I DO recognise you were tired and didn't give a fvck, I've totally been there, but at least TRY to put some humour in?
 

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all the advice/comments given here is bad. dude, we're not mind readers to analyze and decode what went on, cause we don't.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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