"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Is this a good or bad plan
- Thread starter Bullbearpig
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
GearsGod310
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Very true I agree. But don't wait on her to hit you up. Cut contact with her. And in the mean time go to the gym and be productive so you're not thinking about what happened. Theres other chicks man. IF she does come back around it means she has really high interest and you cant **** up after that.
Yeah, you should always have other women. If she reaches out, then cool, but if not there are always more women out there.
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In fact, I would have turned my phone off.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Maybe, maybe not, who knows...
SoSuave666
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1. Allows me to properly assess the woman I am meeting. I can pay attention to who she is and see if we are a good match. Is she on her phone? Do we have good common interests? Are we vibing?
2. It sets a precedent in her mind that my time is valuable and that I am not always on my phone. That way when she texts me and I respond a couple hours later it won't be incongruent with who I am as a man. If I'm always on my phone in her company she knows I'm either not interested or playing a game with her if I don't text back immediately.
I agree, save this tactic for when you feel her pulling away, not when you’re trying to get it in for the first time lol
