"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Is this a blow off or **** test?

Konada

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So I received this text today:

Me: Hey how's your leg coming along? (She sprained her knee)
HB: its okay haha thanks for asking
Me: Thats good to hear. Anyway, you down for drinks at xxx on tues or wednesday?
HB: What? Lol why so random?

My first gut instinct told me this was a blowoff and full of disinterest but I would like to hear your opinion on this. I never replied to that text.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Zapp Brannigan

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If you already mentioned/arranged the date before the text then I'd say it's a s**t test. You'd be better off arranging anything like that with her in person.
 

pyros

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clearly you havent build any rapport with this girl.

Besides, the way you asked her out was plain cold. I mean, you asked her how her leg was (ok...) and inmediately you asked her out with a damn place/time set already (following someone's advise...wrong in my opinion) which made you look a bit like a creep.

Keep it simple man, ask how she's doing, have some small conversation, and then just ask her:

OP: when are you free to meet this week?


This way you give her plenty of time to choose from. If she doesnt seem excited about it and/or is busy or something (excuse) you forget about her. Not that complicated really...
 

Vulpine

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I am starting to really enjoy reading these texty game fails.

Actually typing "What?" in response to a text she can simply read again? Then "Lol"ing about it? What more do you need? A drink splashed in your face? Perhaps a kick in the nuts?

You can text her back "answer the question", which might invoke some tingles, but ultimately you'd be wasting your button pushing.

Texty games... :rolleyes:

Next time, call, and you won't be treated like a püssy.
 

Meisterman

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I would just reply back, if at all, "so is that a yes or a no?" but you don't want to give off the impression she offended you. Just have her answer the damn question, no games. And if she beats around the bush like she is now then you can assume she's not interested and next her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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