"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is this a blow off or **** test?

Konada

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So I received this text today:

Me: Hey how's your leg coming along? (She sprained her knee)
HB: its okay haha thanks for asking
Me: Thats good to hear. Anyway, you down for drinks at xxx on tues or wednesday?
HB: What? Lol why so random?

My first gut instinct told me this was a blowoff and full of disinterest but I would like to hear your opinion on this. I never replied to that text.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Zapp Brannigan

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If you already mentioned/arranged the date before the text then I'd say it's a s**t test. You'd be better off arranging anything like that with her in person.
 

pyros

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clearly you havent build any rapport with this girl.

Besides, the way you asked her out was plain cold. I mean, you asked her how her leg was (ok...) and inmediately you asked her out with a damn place/time set already (following someone's advise...wrong in my opinion) which made you look a bit like a creep.

Keep it simple man, ask how she's doing, have some small conversation, and then just ask her:

OP: when are you free to meet this week?


This way you give her plenty of time to choose from. If she doesnt seem excited about it and/or is busy or something (excuse) you forget about her. Not that complicated really...
 

Vulpine

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I am starting to really enjoy reading these texty game fails.

Actually typing "What?" in response to a text she can simply read again? Then "Lol"ing about it? What more do you need? A drink splashed in your face? Perhaps a kick in the nuts?

You can text her back "answer the question", which might invoke some tingles, but ultimately you'd be wasting your button pushing.

Texty games... :rolleyes:

Next time, call, and you won't be treated like a püssy.
 

Meisterman

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I would just reply back, if at all, "so is that a yes or a no?" but you don't want to give off the impression she offended you. Just have her answer the damn question, no games. And if she beats around the bush like she is now then you can assume she's not interested and next her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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