"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is this a blow off or **** test?

Konada

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So I received this text today:

Me: Hey how's your leg coming along? (She sprained her knee)
HB: its okay haha thanks for asking
Me: Thats good to hear. Anyway, you down for drinks at xxx on tues or wednesday?
HB: What? Lol why so random?

My first gut instinct told me this was a blowoff and full of disinterest but I would like to hear your opinion on this. I never replied to that text.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Zapp Brannigan

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If you already mentioned/arranged the date before the text then I'd say it's a s**t test. You'd be better off arranging anything like that with her in person.
 

pyros

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clearly you havent build any rapport with this girl.

Besides, the way you asked her out was plain cold. I mean, you asked her how her leg was (ok...) and inmediately you asked her out with a damn place/time set already (following someone's advise...wrong in my opinion) which made you look a bit like a creep.

Keep it simple man, ask how she's doing, have some small conversation, and then just ask her:

OP: when are you free to meet this week?


This way you give her plenty of time to choose from. If she doesnt seem excited about it and/or is busy or something (excuse) you forget about her. Not that complicated really...
 

Vulpine

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I am starting to really enjoy reading these texty game fails.

Actually typing "What?" in response to a text she can simply read again? Then "Lol"ing about it? What more do you need? A drink splashed in your face? Perhaps a kick in the nuts?

You can text her back "answer the question", which might invoke some tingles, but ultimately you'd be wasting your button pushing.

Texty games... :rolleyes:

Next time, call, and you won't be treated like a püssy.
 

Meisterman

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I would just reply back, if at all, "so is that a yes or a no?" but you don't want to give off the impression she offended you. Just have her answer the damn question, no games. And if she beats around the bush like she is now then you can assume she's not interested and next her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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