"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is this a bad idea? Involves EX (shes now showing big IOIs)

zzeitgeist

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Guys quick story short, I dated my EX for 4 years, lived for 1 of those years. She broke up with me, I turned into an AFC trying to get her back. Fast forward a year later and I have changed quite a bit, great job, new car, great shape.. pretty much the best me ever. During that 1 year I saw her twice for quick coffees but got rid of her and worked on myself.

This last time we met she invited me out to go out with her.. I was bored so I did.. we went kayaking and spent a good 4-5 hours together. She kept making excuses to extend her time with me and even offered to pay for my food when we went to get food... to which I declined. Now guys, keep in mind shes been dating some bloke for about 8 months now...

So anywho, I dropped her off and she went on about how I have to come out with her again to this bar. I told her "yea, maybe". So she messages me on facebook..

ex-
Hey!
Do you wanna go to the mountain shadow next wednesday? Its really fun! and they have like 25cent wings or something like that if we get there early!

me-
That should work, BUT its kinda early so I don't wanna make any promises. Plus i will probably drink, i don't know if I want you to see me all boozed up :p

ex-
September 3 at 9:48pm
Omg just come with me!! Ill see u boozed up at some point, mite aswell be now.
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so anywho, its in a few days and I still haven't given her the FOR SURE. I am currently spinning some plates with some younger girls but I dunno, I feel like I can get her back by laying some game on her this wednesday, I mean I have come a long way from my AFC ways and I wanna get laid and I feel there is still something there.

The problem is shes dating someone, but obviously cant be that great if she wants to come hang out with me... and ****, deep inside I feel like this might be a bad idea.

THOUGHTS?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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tsmith2334

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Yea, definitely interested. She wants you now that you're gone. Pretty typical among women... a horrible trait in my opinion.

The ball is in your court now. If you want sex you can probably get it. Totally your call.
 
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