A few weeks ago I hung out with this girl that I had a class with. I never number closed her because I wasn't feeling the vibe. She got at me on facebook and we started talking from there. I took her to go shopping with me, and then we were going to get something to eat. When we got to the restaurant, she told me that "her significant other texted her and that she had to go back to her place." I was kind of dumbfounded. I totally wasn't expecting that. Just for the hell of it, I made plans again with her. I don't really have any intentions of keeping the plans given her behavior last time, but if some of you seasoned veterans would advice to do otherwise, then I will.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is there any reason I should chill with this girl?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I have to agree. Send her a text 5 minutes after ur supposed to meet, "sorry, my girl is jealous, I can't go."I don't really have any intentions of keeping the plans given her behavior last time
Dude, that sounds soooo good. I think I might bust it out. Right now, I am just trying to weigh things out. I mean, I know Tyler Durden would probably go through with it and F-close her. I am not Tyler Durden though.Phyzzle said:I have to agree. Send her a text 5 minutes after ur supposed to meet, "sorry, my girl is jealous, I can't go."
take a revenge? hell no.. its not gonna work..its gonna push her away.. why dont you call her at your house? and make fun of what she did to you last time..simply u could say, im calling you at home coz i could lock the door so that u cant leave me alone this time.. in a ****y&funny way of course..
Yeah, you are right. It is vindictive. I was thinking about doing it in a CnF way and then be like "haha, I'm just kidding."Trapper said:take a revenge? hell no.. its not gonna work..its gonna push her away.. why dont you call her at your house? and make fun of what she did to you last time..simply u could say, im calling you at home coz i could lock the door so that u cant leave me alone this time.. in a ****y&funny way of course..
So what do you think? I should try to plow through this one?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It depends:
You say you "were going" to a restaurant. Did you make plans beforehand to go to a restaurant? If so, she blew you off, and she'll just blow you off next time anyways.
Tyler Durden suggests letting a chick stand you up all she wants, in order to get a chance at getting your d!ck wet. I just don't have time for that.
You say you "were going" to a restaurant. Did you make plans beforehand to go to a restaurant? If so, she blew you off, and she'll just blow you off next time anyways.
Tyler Durden suggests letting a chick stand you up all she wants, in order to get a chance at getting your d!ck wet. I just don't have time for that.
Phyzzle said:It depends:
You say you "were going" to a restaurant. Did you make plans beforehand to go to a restaurant? If so, she blew you off, and she'll just blow you off next time anyways.
Tyler Durden suggests letting a chick stand you up all she wants, in order to get a chance at getting your d!ck wet. I just don't have time for that.
No, we didn't make plans before hand. We went to the mall as we had planned. Then we were going to go to dinner. When we got to the Restaurant however, she told me that her "significant other" texted her and she has to be back at her place.
So, as you can see, her telling me that she had a "significant other" seems to be a real IOD. At the same time, her messaging me and asking if the raincheck to get together again had expired seems to be an IOI. I am just trying to decide what to do.
Oh, well in that case, she wasn't rude at all! Don't call her rude, or anything.
Take her out again, someplace cheap. See if you can make anything happen.
Don't expect much. It sounds like she lives with her bf.
Take her out again, someplace cheap. See if you can make anything happen.
Yeah, if she REALLY wanted you, she would just keep her mouth shut about her bf, and say "my friend texted me."her telling me that she had a "significant other" seems to be a real IOD.
Don't expect much. It sounds like she lives with her bf.
To hook up with her.Trapper said:what is your objective?
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