A few weeks ago I hung out with this girl that I had a class with. I never number closed her because I wasn't feeling the vibe. She got at me on facebook and we started talking from there. I took her to go shopping with me, and then we were going to get something to eat. When we got to the restaurant, she told me that "her significant other texted her and that she had to go back to her place." I was kind of dumbfounded. I totally wasn't expecting that. Just for the hell of it, I made plans again with her. I don't really have any intentions of keeping the plans given her behavior last time, but if some of you seasoned veterans would advice to do otherwise, then I will.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Is there any reason I should chill with this girl?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I have to agree. Send her a text 5 minutes after ur supposed to meet, "sorry, my girl is jealous, I can't go."I don't really have any intentions of keeping the plans given her behavior last time
Dude, that sounds soooo good. I think I might bust it out. Right now, I am just trying to weigh things out. I mean, I know Tyler Durden would probably go through with it and F-close her. I am not Tyler Durden though.Phyzzle said:I have to agree. Send her a text 5 minutes after ur supposed to meet, "sorry, my girl is jealous, I can't go."
take a revenge? hell no.. its not gonna work..its gonna push her away.. why dont you call her at your house? and make fun of what she did to you last time..simply u could say, im calling you at home coz i could lock the door so that u cant leave me alone this time.. in a ****y&funny way of course..
Yeah, you are right. It is vindictive. I was thinking about doing it in a CnF way and then be like "haha, I'm just kidding."Trapper said:take a revenge? hell no.. its not gonna work..its gonna push her away.. why dont you call her at your house? and make fun of what she did to you last time..simply u could say, im calling you at home coz i could lock the door so that u cant leave me alone this time.. in a ****y&funny way of course..
So what do you think? I should try to plow through this one?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
It depends:
You say you "were going" to a restaurant. Did you make plans beforehand to go to a restaurant? If so, she blew you off, and she'll just blow you off next time anyways.
Tyler Durden suggests letting a chick stand you up all she wants, in order to get a chance at getting your d!ck wet. I just don't have time for that.
You say you "were going" to a restaurant. Did you make plans beforehand to go to a restaurant? If so, she blew you off, and she'll just blow you off next time anyways.
Tyler Durden suggests letting a chick stand you up all she wants, in order to get a chance at getting your d!ck wet. I just don't have time for that.
Phyzzle said:It depends:
You say you "were going" to a restaurant. Did you make plans beforehand to go to a restaurant? If so, she blew you off, and she'll just blow you off next time anyways.
Tyler Durden suggests letting a chick stand you up all she wants, in order to get a chance at getting your d!ck wet. I just don't have time for that.
No, we didn't make plans before hand. We went to the mall as we had planned. Then we were going to go to dinner. When we got to the Restaurant however, she told me that her "significant other" texted her and she has to be back at her place.
So, as you can see, her telling me that she had a "significant other" seems to be a real IOD. At the same time, her messaging me and asking if the raincheck to get together again had expired seems to be an IOI. I am just trying to decide what to do.
Oh, well in that case, she wasn't rude at all! Don't call her rude, or anything.
Take her out again, someplace cheap. See if you can make anything happen.
Don't expect much. It sounds like she lives with her bf.
Take her out again, someplace cheap. See if you can make anything happen.
Yeah, if she REALLY wanted you, she would just keep her mouth shut about her bf, and say "my friend texted me."her telling me that she had a "significant other" seems to be a real IOD.
Don't expect much. It sounds like she lives with her bf.
To hook up with her.Trapper said:what is your objective?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.