A few weeks ago I hung out with this girl that I had a class with. I never number closed her because I wasn't feeling the vibe. She got at me on facebook and we started talking from there. I took her to go shopping with me, and then we were going to get something to eat. When we got to the restaurant, she told me that "her significant other texted her and that she had to go back to her place." I was kind of dumbfounded. I totally wasn't expecting that. Just for the hell of it, I made plans again with her. I don't really have any intentions of keeping the plans given her behavior last time, but if some of you seasoned veterans would advice to do otherwise, then I will.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is there any reason I should chill with this girl?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I have to agree. Send her a text 5 minutes after ur supposed to meet, "sorry, my girl is jealous, I can't go."I don't really have any intentions of keeping the plans given her behavior last time
Dude, that sounds soooo good. I think I might bust it out. Right now, I am just trying to weigh things out. I mean, I know Tyler Durden would probably go through with it and F-close her. I am not Tyler Durden though.Phyzzle said:I have to agree. Send her a text 5 minutes after ur supposed to meet, "sorry, my girl is jealous, I can't go."
take a revenge? hell no.. its not gonna work..its gonna push her away.. why dont you call her at your house? and make fun of what she did to you last time..simply u could say, im calling you at home coz i could lock the door so that u cant leave me alone this time.. in a ****y&funny way of course..
Yeah, you are right. It is vindictive. I was thinking about doing it in a CnF way and then be like "haha, I'm just kidding."Trapper said:take a revenge? hell no.. its not gonna work..its gonna push her away.. why dont you call her at your house? and make fun of what she did to you last time..simply u could say, im calling you at home coz i could lock the door so that u cant leave me alone this time.. in a ****y&funny way of course..
So what do you think? I should try to plow through this one?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
It depends:
You say you "were going" to a restaurant. Did you make plans beforehand to go to a restaurant? If so, she blew you off, and she'll just blow you off next time anyways.
Tyler Durden suggests letting a chick stand you up all she wants, in order to get a chance at getting your d!ck wet. I just don't have time for that.
You say you "were going" to a restaurant. Did you make plans beforehand to go to a restaurant? If so, she blew you off, and she'll just blow you off next time anyways.
Tyler Durden suggests letting a chick stand you up all she wants, in order to get a chance at getting your d!ck wet. I just don't have time for that.
Phyzzle said:It depends:
You say you "were going" to a restaurant. Did you make plans beforehand to go to a restaurant? If so, she blew you off, and she'll just blow you off next time anyways.
Tyler Durden suggests letting a chick stand you up all she wants, in order to get a chance at getting your d!ck wet. I just don't have time for that.
No, we didn't make plans before hand. We went to the mall as we had planned. Then we were going to go to dinner. When we got to the Restaurant however, she told me that her "significant other" texted her and she has to be back at her place.
So, as you can see, her telling me that she had a "significant other" seems to be a real IOD. At the same time, her messaging me and asking if the raincheck to get together again had expired seems to be an IOI. I am just trying to decide what to do.
Oh, well in that case, she wasn't rude at all! Don't call her rude, or anything.
Take her out again, someplace cheap. See if you can make anything happen.
Don't expect much. It sounds like she lives with her bf.
Take her out again, someplace cheap. See if you can make anything happen.
Yeah, if she REALLY wanted you, she would just keep her mouth shut about her bf, and say "my friend texted me."her telling me that she had a "significant other" seems to be a real IOD.
Don't expect much. It sounds like she lives with her bf.
To hook up with her.Trapper said:what is your objective?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.