Real power is not needing sex from women to feel like a man - otherwise women rule you (don't ask me how I know this ). When it comes to sex itself, yes it's about power too. She submits and I dominate her. The way nature intended it.You say that sex is about power for you. Wouldn't you say that power is a trait of masculinity? Besides... I don't think most men will become Golem for banging a few females here and there that might be below their standards. To prevent having a part of their masculinity fade.
I didn't say you were blackpill, dude. I'm just saying that "volcel" doesn't really make sense to me. If you went volcel because the only women available to you were beneath your standards, then that's incel. I go through incel periods too where the women available to me just aren't good enough. So I don't bang anyone.
Every single incel today could get laid if they wanted to with a hooker. The real meaning of incel is you can't get the women you want (which is something most guys struggle with).
Also, I recommend never sleeping with women below your standards just for a quick nut. It's demoralizing and bad for your soul. You should only ever be shooting for women who really turn you on. Rejecting women who are beneath you will do more for your masculinity than anything else.