"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is there any guide or general direction on how to fill an online profile?

Who Dares Win

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Simple as that, I believe online dating its not the best bet to do but it wouldnt harm to have a profile which could help.

I want to write a profile that doesnt require too much activity, something to write and let it stay there with basic care from me.

More like an advertisement you live on a wall and let people call you.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Clear pictures of your face. Short, simple, c&f that ambiguously talks about you as a person, for your about me section.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Deadly_Ripped

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Tons. Type this into the Google search bar: "How to build a great dating site profile" and variations of it. There's so much information that you could have found a dozen articles in the time it took you to make your post.
 

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VikingKing said:
Clear pictures of your face. Short, simple, c&f that ambiguously talks about you as a person, for your about me section.
This.

Good pictures are a must. If you don't have good pictures, get them. If you can't, you might as well not bother with online dating at all. A brief, not too serious or detailed description of yourself. Avoid banality ("I enjoy spending time with friends and family...") and saying things like "I'm not good at talking about myself".

Also, keep in mind that tinder is rapidly replacing old school dating sites.
 

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VikingKing said:
Clear pictures of your face. Short, simple, c&f that ambiguously talks about you as a person, for your about me section.
I need to disagree here. ****y and funny doesn't generally work on these profiles, unless you are EXTREMELY good looking and have an EXTREMELY well written profile. In other words, you can't fake ****y by being brief and vague and then throwing one or two brags in there.

In fact data shows that a bit of self-deprecation goes a long, long way on online dating profile. Quite the opposite of your advice.

Do not talk ambiguously about yourself. If you are not a specific type, then you are definitely not her type. You can't attract all women with your profile, so don't worry about being overly specific when describing yourself. You can, however, be too vague to give a woman a sense that she'd actually like to spend any time with you. In that case, you'll miss out on women with whom you might actually have some success.
 
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