"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is there any guide or general direction on how to fill an online profile?

Who Dares Win

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Simple as that, I believe online dating its not the best bet to do but it wouldnt harm to have a profile which could help.

I want to write a profile that doesnt require too much activity, something to write and let it stay there with basic care from me.

More like an advertisement you live on a wall and let people call you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Clear pictures of your face. Short, simple, c&f that ambiguously talks about you as a person, for your about me section.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tons. Type this into the Google search bar: "How to build a great dating site profile" and variations of it. There's so much information that you could have found a dozen articles in the time it took you to make your post.
 

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VikingKing said:
Clear pictures of your face. Short, simple, c&f that ambiguously talks about you as a person, for your about me section.
This.

Good pictures are a must. If you don't have good pictures, get them. If you can't, you might as well not bother with online dating at all. A brief, not too serious or detailed description of yourself. Avoid banality ("I enjoy spending time with friends and family...") and saying things like "I'm not good at talking about myself".

Also, keep in mind that tinder is rapidly replacing old school dating sites.
 

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VikingKing said:
Clear pictures of your face. Short, simple, c&f that ambiguously talks about you as a person, for your about me section.
I need to disagree here. ****y and funny doesn't generally work on these profiles, unless you are EXTREMELY good looking and have an EXTREMELY well written profile. In other words, you can't fake ****y by being brief and vague and then throwing one or two brags in there.

In fact data shows that a bit of self-deprecation goes a long, long way on online dating profile. Quite the opposite of your advice.

Do not talk ambiguously about yourself. If you are not a specific type, then you are definitely not her type. You can't attract all women with your profile, so don't worry about being overly specific when describing yourself. You can, however, be too vague to give a woman a sense that she'd actually like to spend any time with you. In that case, you'll miss out on women with whom you might actually have some success.
 
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