Is there a time where "Nice guys finish first?"

[Cherokee]

Nice guy is a title women give to men who don't turn them on.

The guy generally turns out to be one of the 3 major buzz kills...

needy/weird/passionless

or all three in the worst case scenarios.

 

[mahoney]

Then I guess I'm not a nice guy because that list doesn't apply to me. I've also been called nice and too nice by girls.

I just classify myself as a decent guy who women aren't attracted to.

Don't be too sure it doesn't apply to you

Its not just whether you exhibit this behaviour, if its there is a perception that you *might* exhibit this behaviour, or have these thoughts in private.

"Too nice" is often code for needy. Its a criticism - try and think more about what they really mean when they say this. Girls just like anyone else don't always want to tell you the truth, just as you don't want to hear the truth. It suits them to use code and it suits you to hear code. Its not always about what people say to you...its what they say ABOUT you

It suits you to hear 'too nice' because its a 'soft criticism', it tells you its not really your fault. If you are 'too nice' it implies that they aren't that nice, that you are too nice for them...this implies a certain attitude you have towards them, that they're not that nice themselves...maybe it isn't verbalized that way, but thats a negative attitude - and thats why should look at that list and really start to think more about 'well does any of that actually apply to me, why I am so sure it doesn't?'

 

[mahoney]

Like, i'm not trying to be an ass here, but looking at

Ugh, so much anger towards women.

If I wasn't such a nice easy going guy, I'd probably be in jail right now.

Right now I can only see women as nothing more than a spoiled 5 year old who can get everything she wants.

and

Women, make it very hard to like them.

As streiok mentioned, they can entertain you if you bribe them.

But it's just so much work..

If this is your attitude about women, then are you sure you are not transmitting this? And does this make you 'nice/decent'? Does the a$$hole you lose out to have this kind of attitude about women

There's kind of a sense of bitterness and entitlement here, are theses statements really any different from the things in my list you say don't apply to you? Why so sure the list doesn't apply to you?

 

[Sh0t]

Many girls like nice guys, but their version of a nice guy is not the metaphorical "you".

Their idea of a nice guy is a super handsome, athletic, well-off, culture, guy whom is especially nice TO THEM. They don't mean the lovable, chubby, gamer nerd that likes to write poetry. They mean a ruggedly handsome, fireman that daytrades stocks making a fortune on the side, type of "nice guy."

 

[garruk]

double posted....

 

[garruk]

Or is being a "nice guy" useless...Where would this world be if there were no nice guys?

I'm curious to see what would happen to civilization if there were no nice guys.

at church. religious girls are all aobut the nice guy.

i know this hotttt girl at my church who i dated back in hs. right after me, she dated another jerk.

now she's been in a commited relationship with a church dude for the last 3
years. they seem pretty happy together, him, because theres no way he'll ever get anyone hot than this girl. her, because she finally has a loving bf whom she probably thinks is rare. i see their pictures on facebook all the time.
i half think that religion was founded back in the day so that there would be more nice guys out in the world which would be beneficial to society (rather than a bunch of alpha males butting heads).

 

[zekko]

Many girls like nice guys, but their version of a nice guy is not the metaphorical "you".

Their idea of a nice guy is a super handsome, athletic, well-off, culture, guy whom is especially nice TO THEM. They don't mean the lovable, chubby, gamer nerd that likes to write poetry. They mean a ruggedly handsome, fireman that daytrades stocks making a fortune on the side, type of "nice guy."

Well yeah, of course. Guys like nice women, but they want them to be pretty with soft hair and a nice shape. It's only natural.

 

[DonGorgon]

And even then an @$$hole still wins!

Nice guys finish first when they're extremely handsome, popular, and rich.

Nice guys finishing first is some fairytale sh*t and only happens in the movies.

Case closed.

no man really finnishes first or wins per say but nice guys struggle more in the dating and mating game cause its a competition and evil tactics / cheating give an advantage....

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

Nice guys don't even finish first in the movies anymore. Its the Nice girl that finishes first. The Nice guy is often mocked for comic relief while she gets her Knight.

 

[Fuglydude]

I think I'm a living example of a nice guy who's done well...

By nice I mean someone who is respectful, altruistic, kind, blah blah blah...

Statistically speaking I'm more attractive, in better shape, stronger, more educated/intelligent, make more money, etc than your average dude. I'm 5'8' - 185 lbs and growing. I'm a competitive bodybuilder who has 2 university degrees and earn over 100k in a cool job/career with a great upside. I'm engaged to a semi-pro fitness/glamour model. If you wanna see pics just search my previous posts.

Although I consider myself "nice" I've/am done many things that mainstream society would consider deviant, and wouldn't associate with being "nice":

- Drugs... I like drugs. I've done lots of them, everything from anabolics to marijuana, to prescription amphetamines, to salvia.
- Was a stripper for several years: Done hundreds of shows all over Western Canada. The cash was great!
- Sold drugs. Not for profit, just to my friends who needed stuff.
- Made bad choices like unprotected sex with multiple women.
- Had group sex.
- Would routine sleep w/ multiple women (spin plates) prior to my LTR... I never lied about it to the women, they simply accepted it.

One of my good buddies, super nice guy, has banged over 200 girls. This guy was a stripper for 10+ years and has had an orgy with pornstar Sadie Swede, and a 3-time Ms. Nude Canada. Several of my other friends are no different, super nice guys... with triple digit kills.

I think we should define what we consider to be "nice" to make this discussion more meaningful. After all, depending on the definition, there could be lots of nice guys who "finish first".

 

[DonGorgon]

I think I'm a living example of a nice guy who's done well...

By nice I mean someone who is respectful, altruistic, kind, blah blah blah...

Statistically speaking I'm more attractive, in better shape, stronger, more educated/intelligent, make more money, etc than your average dude. I'm 5'8' - 185 lbs and growing. I'm a competitive bodybuilder who has 2 university degrees and earn over 100k in a cool job/career with a great upside. I'm engaged to a semi-pro fitness/glamour model. If you wanna see pics just search my previous posts.

Although I consider myself "nice" I've/am done many things that mainstream society would consider deviant, and wouldn't associate with being "nice":

- Drugs... I like drugs. I've done lots of them, everything from anabolics to marijuana, to prescription amphetamines, to salvia.
- Was a stripper for several years: Done hundreds of shows all over Western Canada. The cash was great!
- Sold drugs. Not for profit, just to my friends who needed stuff.
- Made bad choices like unprotected sex with multiple women.
- Had group sex.
- Would routine sleep w/ multiple women (spin plates) prior to my LTR... I never lied about it to the women, they simply accepted it.

One of my good buddies, super nice guy, has banged over 200 girls. This guy was a stripper for 10+ years and has had an orgy with pornstar Sadie Swede, and a 3-time Ms. Nude Canada. Several of my other friends are no different, super nice guys... with triple digit kills.

I think we should define what we consider to be "nice" to make this discussion more meaningful. After all, depending on the definition, there could be lots of nice guys who "finish first".

you are a PHYSICAL ALPHA + so yes you will have lots of easy fun and bang the bang male's wives and girlfriends.....lol

 

[PappyS]

Many girls like nice guys, but their version of a nice guy is not the metaphorical "you".

Their idea of a nice guy is a super handsome, athletic, well-off, culture, guy whom is especially nice TO THEM. They don't mean the lovable, chubby, gamer nerd that likes to write poetry. They mean a ruggedly handsome, fireman that daytrades stocks making a fortune on the side, type of "nice guy."

Girls are turned on by guys who treat them like crap. They're turned off by guys who are too nice to them. There is a direct correlation. Men are often the opposite. They're turned off by girls who are mean, b!tchy, rude or condescending. They're turned on by girls who are nice. I'm sure many guys would prefer to have an uglier chick who is nicer to them than a hotter b!tchier one. They'd probably fvck the b!tchy but wouldn't want to keep her.

So basically girls lose attraction to a good looking rich guy if he's too nice to them (and probably cheat on him and spend his money on some other guy). But they'll become more attracted to a physically unattractive bum if he is mean to them.

In the end many of them become angry and bitter with a hatred towards all men. Women are fvcked up because obtaining their evolutionary desire in terms of partners often leaves them angry and bitter. Whereas when I get my evolutionary desire in partners (young, tight vagina) I'm happy as fvck and give myself a high five.

 

[initiatorhater06]

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