"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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slitherjef

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Attraction and Interest? Or are they the same? If they are different, explain
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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They are the same. Think of it as a ruler, let's say 18 inches long. At the beginning girl is interested. Then she becomes attracted, and attraction and interest become the same thing.. First 5 inches are interest toward becoming attracted, so to speak.. That's my view of it.
 
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creating attraction is one of the essentials of having game. 75% of the tricks you read about on this board - negs, push-pull, c&f, etc were made to get the woman attracted

interest is one of the ways you gauge attraction. that's why some guys go nuts tryign to figure out if she was giving them an IOI
 
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I think attraction and interest level are related but two different things. If a girl says this guy is attractive or this guy is interesting. Don't kid yourself we know they mean two different things. An extreme example of a girl being interested but not necessarily attracted would be a gold digger. Another example is an entertainment monkey who's in LJBFs land. She might be interested in hanging around you, but she's not attracted to you and probably won't have sex with you. A girl can be attracted to a guy but not interested for various reasons, maybe she doesn't want to leave her BF for example. You need to have both really, attraction and interest.
 
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