DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
J/k, we had every other race here so I thought I'd make one. Mods, plz don't hold this against me.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Same boat here. I find it actually very easy to get latinas, being Italian, but that's just me.Originally posted by NYtomb
I dont see the humor here. And no I dont think there is. My current girlfriend is Latino and I am white(olive skinned Italian). I actually only date Hispanic/Latino or Italian women. No difference in the approach or the dates. I did however play dominoes at a family gathering at my girlfriends house whereas my Italian family would play poker or bingo (lame but its a family thing)
Originally posted by italostud
Same boat here. I find it actually very easy to get latinas, being Italian, but that's just me.
The difference between approaching a white girl and a hispanic girl? Well, with the hispanic one, first you have to step around the stroller she's pushing....
Ain't that the truth lol.............. but Spanish girls turn me on like no other race. They are just so dam sexy.
Originally posted by BuckwildNYC
There must be something in the NYC water that has us Italians chasing these beauties. I have run into a few with kids, but never dated one. Too many problems could arise and I am not here to support anyone financially.Originally posted by italostud
Same boat here. I find it actually very easy to get latinas, being Italian, but that's just me.
The difference between approaching a white girl and a hispanic girl? Well, with the hispanic one, first you have to step around the stroller she's pushing....
Ain't that the truth lol.............. but Spanish girls turn me on like no other race. They are just so dam sexy.
My college is full of Hispanic women and white women are scarce so I am pretty limited anyway. Blonde hair and blue eyes never did it for me in the first place. I have always been attracted to the black/dark brown hair and the shape they all seem to have. There is also this attitude they seem to possess which I find attractive. I will stop rambling and get back to my business law homework.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I havent been there yet but pass it all the time when I am in the city. Whats the dress code and price?Originally posted by BuckwildNYC
All I gotta say is Spanish girls love us white guys too. If you are a tall fairly good-looking white guy..........walk into a Spanish club and see all the attention you get. I don't think I have ever left Copa Cabana w/o at least a number..... sometimes much more![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ladies night. Good stuff although as a Law Student I have to laugh everytime I hear the term. Women want equality yet they support these ladies night discrimination. I guess discrimination is to be commended when it is in your favor.Originally posted by BuckwildNYC
You gotta get dressed up. They want slacks and a collared shirt............ I think its 25 and over for guys but don't quote me on it. On Tuesdays they have an after work party that's good from like 8 to 12. Fridays I think are the best nights to go cause it's usually ladies night. If there's a big performance I've seen the door price go up to 40 bucks but usually its 20 or less.
exactly!Originally posted by NYtomb
Women want equality yet they support these ladies night discrimination. I guess discrimination is to be commended when it is in your favor.
I will probably head out one of these Fridays with my buddies.