"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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is the promise of sex the reason why men are wusses nowadays..

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My parents are digging up old family "treasures". A lot of great old memories are unboxed. One of them is my old address book back from my puberty age. I was wondering what happened to a lot of them now. Then I ran across the girls section. It looks like i have kept the boys and girls separate in my book instead of sorting them alphabetically.

In addition to the good ol days when you have their home phones (instead of cell phones now) and getting caught by their dads (lol), I also had their addresses. Then I was thinking,my interaction to these girls was so different back then. If any of them pulled any bs crap, I'd had had ejected her immediately and moved on.

Then why did a lot men now, myself included, would sometimes bent over and suck up to a woman bs? Then I thought that what makes it different now and then was sex. Back then when you and everybody else were 14 living with their parents, you weren't trying to get sex at all. Just the fact of hanging out with girls was enough to fancy your pants.

Is it because men crave sex so much now, and it is so easy for women to give the illusion of sex (just wear a short skirt - omg one inch more I could see her pvssies!) that we just drool over them and willing to jump through hoops just to get some??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sharkybear said:
Why would I sometimes bent over and suck up to a woman bs? Then I thought that what makes it different now and then was sex. Back then when you and everybody else were 14 living with their parents, I wasn't trying to get sex at all. Just the fact of hanging out with girls was enough to fancy my pants.

Is it because I crave sex so much now, and it is so easy for women to give the illusion of sex (just wear a short skirt - omg one inch more I could see her pvssies!) that I just drool over them and I'm willing to jump through hoops just to get some??
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You answered your own question. Now that you know what your problem is, what are you going to do about it.
 
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The media makes "sex with a girl" out to be the ultimate form of social proof. Thus, it is over-coveted by most young men.

Kids these days need something to do.
 
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squirrels said:
The media makes "sex with a girl" out to be the ultimate form of social proof. Thus, it is over-coveted by most young men.

Kids these days need something to do.
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THIS


And also the fact that as I said many times nowadays the value of a man is measured from the quantity and quality of women around him,a pusher with girls is considered more cool than an average guy who pay his bills and does his part on society.
 
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