HaleyBaron
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I got laid at a pre-NYE event during the weekend. Not sure if it had anything to do with the NYE effect, but it happened.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That counts as getting laid during the November 15-December 31 slow season for meeting new women.I got laid at a pre-NYE event during the weekend. Not sure if it had anything to do with the NYE effect, but it happened.
A weekend NYE event. Sort of an unofficial one. Think halloween weekend before actual halloween that falls on a weekday.That counts as getting laid during the November 15-December 31 slow season for meeting new women.
I'm sure you were happy to get laid last weekend.
What kind of event was it?
I also went out last night but with different intent. I was trying to find places to go on Wednesday's but the result was that its not a normal Wednesday due to New Years. I had my eye on this one lounge I've been wanting to go but when I got there it was super dead. Then I went to my go to spot and it was also dead and the bartenders were telling me how during holiday times its generally slow. I am hoping it goes back to normal starting this weekend. I did see 1 bar that looked pack but I was already on my way home and tired so maybe next week I will try going. Are you going out at night a lot or are you only come out during holidays?I went out last night on the night of January 1 for the first time in many years. For future reference, I'll acknowledge that this happened on a Wednesday night.
I went to a bar that is typically considered to be one of the more active bars. This bar is located in one of the more nightlife active areas of the city.
This bar was more active last night as compared to the 2 times I tried going out on the night of January 1 in the mid-2010s.
Talent pool was rather weak last night. More females were out in mixed set groups with boyfriends/husbands. There were a few groups of 2 or 3 women. One of the groups of 3 women had 1 women dressed in a sweatshirt and sweatpants. She looked like she was dressed to relax in her home alone or in her home with a close, long time friend. She was not dressed to impress. Other women weren't dressed to impress in this venue either.
The women in this venue seemed unmotivated to find a new penis for sex to start off the new year. The ones with boyfriends/husbands were clearly unmotivated but the women in 2-3 set groups were also unmotivated. The 2-3 set groups seemed more interested in keeping to themselves than finding new men.
Other venues near the bar where I went were even less crowded with fewer options than what I saw where I was.
I am open to going out at night more than I currently do. I have been lacking a wingman in recent years as almost all of my closer friends are married. The majority of my married friends/acquaintances also have children at home. While I feel no pressure to follow their lifestyle choices, I also know that my choices have led to my current situation.Are you going out at night a lot or are you only come out during holidays?
That's bad. I doubt I saw anyone in the bar I went who was on an early stage swipe app date.Also I can vouch for your observation that the vast majority of sets you will see are couples.
This is in line with my bar experiences over time.Its almost impossible to find women out at night alone. I've been going out two nights every weekend since summer and I'd say that I only catch a woman by herself at a bar maybe once every other month max and most of the time she isn't attractive.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
It's not a matter of whether a girl is out alone or not that determines if she's DTF. 99% of the time they are going to be out with somebody. What matters is the context of the night and its expectations. New Year's Day: context = day you celebrate with your close friends. So the girls you find out that night, will be doing exactly that. Celebrating it with their close friends. They are not out in the mindset of potentially hooking up with a stranger.Also I can vouch for your observation that the vast majority of sets you will see are couples. Its almost impossible to find women out at night alone. I've been going out two nights every weekend since summer and I'd say that I only catch a woman by herself at a bar maybe once every other month max and most of the time she isn't attractive.
Thanksgiving Eve has been talked about in this thread and other threads over time. Many think that's a good night for getting laid at the bars.Thanksgiving Eve.
Correct. many guys think its a good night for getting laid. which is how you end up in situations like thisMany think that's a good night for getting laid at the bars
Inside was shoulder-to-shoulder with a ratio of something like 8 guys per girl, and while plenty of girls were decent, I couldn't find any that were hot enough for me to want to approach them.
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Random Instagram model I follow posted something further solidifying this; she's in Madrid celebrating in some VIP section and noted that the guy-to-girl ratio was crazy...recorded a video and could barely see any women in the crowd.Correct. many guys think its a good night for getting laid. which is how you end up in situations like this
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Thanksgiving Eve
I vaguely remember somebody commenting on a post about Halloween, I think it might've been @Bingo-Player when it came to "easiest times of the year to get laid" or something to that effect. I'm debating what to do tomorrow: A. Go to "THE spot" where everybody seems to be planning on visiting...www.sosuave.net
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.