"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Is the key for overcoming fear:FORCED RANDOM APPROACHING?

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Is the key for overcoming fear:FORCED RANDOM APPROACHING?

Example:just approacing 10 women and asking them out or asking for a phone number regardless of consequences?

Will this really help?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Everybody who responds. Let's keep this thread to simply fear of approaching women.

Yes one way to overcoming the fear of approaching women, is to approach random women.

Double yes on the reason WHY...

"regardless of consequences"
 

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no but maybe 100 or 1000 times. 10 times isnt ****. I dont think asking them out will help. Just walking up and saying will you go out with me is kind of lame and it doesent help your mind work. Trying to have a real conversation would be better IMO.

I dont know where you are going with this though.
 

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the better question to ask is...

what fears you about approaching women?, then work on that.
 

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In line with the last two posters, 10 girls is putting a band-aid on a bullet hole. You need to overcome a fear by not only removing yourself from your comfort zone (approaching) but digging into the reason you are so discomforted with approach to begin with.

It's a step in the right direction, though you may want to follow something like the bootcamp if you have a serious problem.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The ways I removed my fear had nothing to do with approaching, yet work perfectly for me:

1) Don't jerk off. You up your testosterone and have higher energy and more dominant behavior, such as increased eye contact, sexier voice tone and alpha body language.

2) Your talking to WOMEN, 5 feet of flesh and bone. 'Nuff said.

3) YOU ARE THE PRIZE, so start believing it. When you talk to a woman, YOU are qualifying HER. Start believing it.

Easy said, easy done.
 

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It depends................ if your frist 10 approaches are disastrous it might send you back 10 steps. I think ultimately you have to get your insides right first. You have to KNOW, not just think, deep down in your soul that you are a GREAT guy. At that point anything in this world can happen to you and you'll be able fight right through it.
 
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