"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Is the key for overcoming fear:FORCED RANDOM APPROACHING?

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Is the key for overcoming fear:FORCED RANDOM APPROACHING?

Example:just approacing 10 women and asking them out or asking for a phone number regardless of consequences?

Will this really help?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Everybody who responds. Let's keep this thread to simply fear of approaching women.

Yes one way to overcoming the fear of approaching women, is to approach random women.

Double yes on the reason WHY...

"regardless of consequences"
 

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no but maybe 100 or 1000 times. 10 times isnt ****. I dont think asking them out will help. Just walking up and saying will you go out with me is kind of lame and it doesent help your mind work. Trying to have a real conversation would be better IMO.

I dont know where you are going with this though.
 

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the better question to ask is...

what fears you about approaching women?, then work on that.
 

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In line with the last two posters, 10 girls is putting a band-aid on a bullet hole. You need to overcome a fear by not only removing yourself from your comfort zone (approaching) but digging into the reason you are so discomforted with approach to begin with.

It's a step in the right direction, though you may want to follow something like the bootcamp if you have a serious problem.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The ways I removed my fear had nothing to do with approaching, yet work perfectly for me:

1) Don't jerk off. You up your testosterone and have higher energy and more dominant behavior, such as increased eye contact, sexier voice tone and alpha body language.

2) Your talking to WOMEN, 5 feet of flesh and bone. 'Nuff said.

3) YOU ARE THE PRIZE, so start believing it. When you talk to a woman, YOU are qualifying HER. Start believing it.

Easy said, easy done.
 

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It depends................ if your frist 10 approaches are disastrous it might send you back 10 steps. I think ultimately you have to get your insides right first. You have to KNOW, not just think, deep down in your soul that you are a GREAT guy. At that point anything in this world can happen to you and you'll be able fight right through it.
 
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