"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Is the key for overcoming fear:FORCED RANDOM APPROACHING?

Amateur_FOR_NOW

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Is the key for overcoming fear:FORCED RANDOM APPROACHING?

Example:just approacing 10 women and asking them out or asking for a phone number regardless of consequences?

Will this really help?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ethnomethodologist

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Everybody who responds. Let's keep this thread to simply fear of approaching women.

Yes one way to overcoming the fear of approaching women, is to approach random women.

Double yes on the reason WHY...

"regardless of consequences"
 

Skel

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no but maybe 100 or 1000 times. 10 times isnt ****. I dont think asking them out will help. Just walking up and saying will you go out with me is kind of lame and it doesent help your mind work. Trying to have a real conversation would be better IMO.

I dont know where you are going with this though.
 

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the better question to ask is...

what fears you about approaching women?, then work on that.
 

belividere

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In line with the last two posters, 10 girls is putting a band-aid on a bullet hole. You need to overcome a fear by not only removing yourself from your comfort zone (approaching) but digging into the reason you are so discomforted with approach to begin with.

It's a step in the right direction, though you may want to follow something like the bootcamp if you have a serious problem.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The ways I removed my fear had nothing to do with approaching, yet work perfectly for me:

1) Don't jerk off. You up your testosterone and have higher energy and more dominant behavior, such as increased eye contact, sexier voice tone and alpha body language.

2) Your talking to WOMEN, 5 feet of flesh and bone. 'Nuff said.

3) YOU ARE THE PRIZE, so start believing it. When you talk to a woman, YOU are qualifying HER. Start believing it.

Easy said, easy done.
 

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It depends................ if your frist 10 approaches are disastrous it might send you back 10 steps. I think ultimately you have to get your insides right first. You have to KNOW, not just think, deep down in your soul that you are a GREAT guy. At that point anything in this world can happen to you and you'll be able fight right through it.
 
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