"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Is the key for overcoming fear:FORCED RANDOM APPROACHING?

Amateur_FOR_NOW

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Is the key for overcoming fear:FORCED RANDOM APPROACHING?

Example:just approacing 10 women and asking them out or asking for a phone number regardless of consequences?

Will this really help?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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ethnomethodologist

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Everybody who responds. Let's keep this thread to simply fear of approaching women.

Yes one way to overcoming the fear of approaching women, is to approach random women.

Double yes on the reason WHY...

"regardless of consequences"
 

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no but maybe 100 or 1000 times. 10 times isnt ****. I dont think asking them out will help. Just walking up and saying will you go out with me is kind of lame and it doesent help your mind work. Trying to have a real conversation would be better IMO.

I dont know where you are going with this though.
 

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the better question to ask is...

what fears you about approaching women?, then work on that.
 

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In line with the last two posters, 10 girls is putting a band-aid on a bullet hole. You need to overcome a fear by not only removing yourself from your comfort zone (approaching) but digging into the reason you are so discomforted with approach to begin with.

It's a step in the right direction, though you may want to follow something like the bootcamp if you have a serious problem.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The ways I removed my fear had nothing to do with approaching, yet work perfectly for me:

1) Don't jerk off. You up your testosterone and have higher energy and more dominant behavior, such as increased eye contact, sexier voice tone and alpha body language.

2) Your talking to WOMEN, 5 feet of flesh and bone. 'Nuff said.

3) YOU ARE THE PRIZE, so start believing it. When you talk to a woman, YOU are qualifying HER. Start believing it.

Easy said, easy done.
 

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It depends................ if your frist 10 approaches are disastrous it might send you back 10 steps. I think ultimately you have to get your insides right first. You have to KNOW, not just think, deep down in your soul that you are a GREAT guy. At that point anything in this world can happen to you and you'll be able fight right through it.
 
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