"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is that a good example of ****y and funny?

Shivastorm_88

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A girl was telling me how her soccer team won the game 8-1, and then she told me (obviously really proud) that she scored the first goal. So me instead of congratulating her and all, I just playfully made fun of her for only scoring one goal.

Is that mostly what ****y and funny is all about?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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NickBe

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Lay off the ****y+funny it is a myth perpetrated by David Deangelo that doesn't really work unless you are going for 15 year old girls or women with the mentality of a 15 year old.

****y = Obnoxious

****y = Annoying

****y = Clown

Try confident+funny sure you can poke fun at a girl every know and then but you do not want to do it from a ****y perspective. More like if she does or says something dumb you make fun of her for it. Obviously you never carry it to far.

I am not saying that making fun of her one goal isn't ok but do not do it from a ****y perspective and do not carry it on too far.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Learn what c/f is really about. At it's core it's about how you project yourself and not about putting other people down like neg-hits. This is what causes guys so much trouble. You can be ****y(confident) and funny without putting other people down.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Snow Plowman said:
Huge miscalibration, this girl was proud that she scored the first goal and you basically started busting on her for no reason. Instead why couldn't you just be proud for her?
My personal experience is in perfect harmony with these replies. C+F is useful in RARE, RARE circumstances in the personal style that I like and works best for me. For the most part, it is obnoxious to women. I try to be loving and funny, or humble and funny, or even better, just drop funny and focus on humble and interesting, or loving and interesting. Now that is something worth aiming for.

Actually, the person I neg-hit the most is myself... not in a negative way, just playfully.

Very, very few people know how to be interesting. Jokes can only get you so far, in my experience. Being interesting, building a profound connection, that's all you need. Even working out for women is a waste of time if you have personality skills like that.

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Snow Plowman said:
Huge miscalibration, this girl was proud that she scored the first goal and you basically started busting on her for no reason. Instead why couldn't you just be proud for her?
:up:
 

bachelor

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Yeah, thats a good example of CF... Another thing I might have said is wow, you scored a goal I'm guessin this is the first one you made this season? If its later on in the season then I would have said that.. Or jokingly been like yeah ur the star player in a sarcastic tone of voice!
 
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