Is talking on the phone OK?

[Reed247]

I talk to my girlfriend for an hour on the phone sometimes, usually once a week. Sometimes twice.
Is this a relationship killer or a relationship builder?
I am very aware the talking to much is a turn off, like everyday. But do all calls have to be less then 15 minutes? Nobody ever really discusses phone etiquette with a girlfriend.
I would never do this with a f*ck buddy just a girlfriend type. I figure a relationship girl deserves more respect unlike a wh*re.

 

[AIR-PILOT]

An hour is too much...Depends though.
Who ends the conversation? If she does, that is a bad bad sign.

 

[duttylove]

use phone only to set up real life meetings, or a simple 10 minute catch up chat if youve not spoken in a while! unless she is you wife

 

[BigFoot]

I think it really depends on the situation and your relationship. If you have a good relationship and you talk about things on the phone that you wouldn't normally be able to in person, it's not bad. But if you talk too much (for the particular relationship) and it becomes a substitute for getting together in person, don't do it.

 

[Hellboy]

I explained to my current girl, in the early stages, that I'm not too keen on telephone conversations. I explained that this is because it strips a lot of the feeling out of the dialogue. There is no eye contact, no touching... it's so impersonal. I told her anything we want to discuss we should do it in person. She agreed and we spend maybe 5-10 minutes on the phone a week.

 

[Qualtran]

Unless it is a long distance relationship (those suck), I see no reason to spend a lot of time on the phone with a girfriend. When I start dating girls, I immediately make it very clear that I'm into seeing eachother in person and not wasting time chatting on an impersonal phone. Why satisfy her urges to talk to her on the phone when you can do it in person?

 

[Jariel]

If you both enjoy chatting on the phone, why should it be a problem? Just make sure you give each other enough space so you don't get taken for granted.

 

[diablo]

Do a search before asking questions that have a 99.99999% chance of having already been asked and answered by tons of other people on the forum. Thanks.

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