"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I told a girl that I like her, but she said that she wasn't interested in me in that way. She said she still wanted me as a friend. About 2 weeks after that, she started ditching me, and i was the only one who could see it. I asked her about it and she denied it, but I knew that she was lying. Just yesterday she ditched me and my (female) friend at school. We are both very pissed off with her, but I figured that if I don't show it, I will be much better off than if I do. What should I do with her? Is it worth keeping her in my life? Personally, I don't think so because she is too much of a liar. Another one of my girl friends talked to this girl yesterday, and she said that I am not a problem in her life, basically transfering all the weight to the girl that was with me when we got ditched. I know she is lying. What should I do?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Give her space (ie: live life without her). If she's lying about ditching you when she obvisously is, she needs to lose you to have it click..sometimes.

Just don't count on her always coming back.
 

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Originally posted by JC Jerkson
She's not interested. Move on and find new ones. They're everywhere.


JC
Why would you just tell a girl "I like you" (Most likely you sounded real serious about it and meant it)

Come on man thats the afc way around things i could have understand if you were playing around saying something like that, but to actually say "I like you" its just giving her the option to say no.
 

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Originally posted by seek&destroy
I told a girl that I like her, but she said that she wasn't interested in me in that way.
Tell her "You don't have a choice. We're gonna go make-out and then we're going to express our love to each other physically."

..Then start cackling madly.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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