Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Is she monkey branching?

Randzilla

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Ok so I have a co worker that I have banged in the past for a little bit and things just fizzled out. So it's been like over a year since we have hooked up she's initiated contact a few times during that break and I just ignore her. So now recently she's been really aggressive so I hung out with her. Thing is I heard she had a bf like less than a week ago as well. So we hung out out her house slept in the same bed but no sex alot of touching and feeling but she didn't want anything past that. So is that out of guilt that she has a bf? Maybe they recently broke up..... but her not wanting sex when we have in the past has me really thrown off.



Sorry for the blocky text I'm on a ****ty phone.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maybe things are rocky with her and the BF and she needs to know that she's still wanted in case the ship sinks. Either way I wouldn't entertain that. I'd tell her to hit you up when she means business.
 

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Maybe things are rocky with her and the BF and she needs to know that she's still wanted in case the ship sinks. Either way I wouldn't entertain that. I'd tell her to hit you up when she means business.
That's what I figure she's just wanting to have someone to monkey branch to after their officially done.
 
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Yep. I’m with jaymbrs. She’s testing to see if you will still take her if she flattens the guy.
Either she wants to suk n fuk or she doesn’t.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SoSuave666

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I don't know if she's monkey branching...usually youd do more than just over the clothes stuff. Sounds to me like she just wants validation from another man without feeling like a total "slut." Did you try and have sex with her? Did you previously have sex with her?
 

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I don't know if she's monkey branching...usually youd do more than just over the clothes stuff. Sounds to me like she just wants validation from another man without feeling like a total "slut." Did you try and have sex with her? Did you previously have sex with her?
Yeah we where pretty much **** buddies for a while
 

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She’s casting a line. I think that’s the first step in any monkey branch. I always assume that any chick I’m dealing with has multiple lines cast and is waiting for a nibble. You guys were f buddies.... she’s now trying to change the dynamics and make you work for it. If you want to keep being f buddies I wouldn’t reach back out to her. Let her reach out to you..,. Then I would joke about that being my first sleep over since 3rd grade. You call the shots and don’t let her play games with you!
 

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Way to drop the ball OP and reinforce her idea of total abundance when you could have continued to shut her down and maybe, just maybe, got her to start considering other people and consequences of her actions.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Invite her over to your place for dinner. Make it really easy for sex to happen in a covert way. Afterall, you have banged her before it's just been a while.

If she declines simply go back to ignoring her and hit up other chicks.

Pro tip: if you've banged a woman previously, waste no time in getting her to come over. This brings her back into YOUR frame and doesnt allow her to suck you into her's with some "I'm looking for a relationship " bullshyte.
 
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