"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is she becoming attached too fast?

I'm Joe Dirt

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I've been going out with this girl (she is now my girlfriend) for about 2 or so weeks. It's the 3rd week now.

She is a very shy girl, the librarian introverted type. On our first date she wouldn't really even touch me and from her body language I could tell she didn't want to be touched either. Eventually we held hands the next time we went out, then she came over and we made out, and from there she got pretty touchy feely.

So I think she is being broken in.

But like today she showed up at my job and gave me a flower (it was a small flower) but didn't stay long since she was going to be late for work herself.

She calls me pretty much everyday, I never really have to call her anymore.

Is she becoming attached too fast? Cause to me it feels like she might be. Any advice on what to expect from this point on?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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I'm Joe Dirt

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I am enjoying myself, but I don't want to like get married anytime soon and while its exciting to be in a relationship its also kind of scary. I haven't been in a relationship since discovering the community.

Um, she was engaged before she said and was with that guy for four years, so yes I would say she was heartbroken before.
 

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Some get attached quickly, some take months. The next girl (if there is a next one, you stud, heh heh) could be the complete opposite. I agree with GGTW here and go with the flow, except keep in mind the guideline about trickle-feeding yourself to her. Don't tell her your whole life story just yet. I mean, how fast do you want things to move? You are in control. Forget the girl and her feelings for a minute...what does your personality dictate in this situation?

All said and done, if it ain't broken, don't fix it.
 
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