Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She actually did volunteer it.lol And he!! no we never met or exchanged numbers. She started out by going on and on about how guys had screwed her over and just wanted sex and she was looking for a nice guy and was not going to have sex til she got married. So I asked her how many guys had she banged off pof. I was expecting like 5,6,7 something like that. She came back with 39:crazy: Then she went on to tell me how low it made her feel after each time she banged one and how she was only banging so many because she had recently gotten a divorce. Oh and this girl was only 23.lolJohnnyStorm said:Did she volunteer this information? Please tell me she got out a notepad and started entering in what she thought of your "performance"![]()
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Everytime people tell me I am crazy....Robert28 said:She actually did volunteer it.lol And he!! no we never met or exchanged numbers. She started out by going on and on about how guys had screwed her over and just wanted sex and she was looking for a nice guy and was not going to have sex til she got married. So I asked her how many guys had she banged off pof. I was expecting like 5,6,7 something like that. She came back with 39:crazy: Then she went on to tell me how low it made her feel after each time she banged one and how she was only banging so many because she had recently gotten a divorce. Oh and this girl was only 23.lol
People ask me why I'm not married. Maybe I should give this example and see their reaction.haha