Furyguy
Senior Don Juan
I think I kinda just did it, and it feels really fucking lame.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Is setting up a date through texts really lame?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
MisterMcGee
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It all depends on your frame with the girl. I set one up really quickly with a girl I haven't seen in ages.
MisterMcGee
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I'm 1/1 (lmao)
Over facebook:
me: hey bla bla been a long time remember me?
her: bla bla of course i remember you, howve you been?
me: ive been awesome, you know how i am. actually you don't, we gotta fix that and catch up definitely. im gonna be ___ so come by around ___ .
and how have you been? (then a joke about something she did 6-7 years ago)
her: lmfao i remember those days, we def need to catch up. and yea i'll see what im doing and let you know
bla bla ive been great
me: blabla how do you remember that! youre ridiculous. my # is ____ txt me n ill get bac kto you when i can. sound good? take it easy
her: i remember everything lmfaoo kk i'll txt you,here's my # ______ oh and add me on msn ________
thats roughly how it went over facebook. she couldnt make it for that day and she ended up coming into my work (movie theatre) as i was working and tried to make it a date (didnt even buy a movie ticket. she was like "sucks that you're busy... whens your break?" etc etc)
Over facebook:
me: hey bla bla been a long time remember me?
her: bla bla of course i remember you, howve you been?
me: ive been awesome, you know how i am. actually you don't, we gotta fix that and catch up definitely. im gonna be ___ so come by around ___ .
and how have you been? (then a joke about something she did 6-7 years ago)
her: lmfao i remember those days, we def need to catch up. and yea i'll see what im doing and let you know
bla bla ive been greatme: blabla how do you remember that! youre ridiculous. my # is ____ txt me n ill get bac kto you when i can. sound good?
take it easyher: i remember everything
lmfaoo kk i'll txt you,here's my # ______ oh and add me on msn ________thats roughly how it went over facebook. she couldnt make it for that day and she ended up coming into my work (movie theatre) as i was working and tried to make it a date (didnt even buy a movie ticket. she was like "sucks that you're busy... whens your break?" etc etc)
bukowski_merit
Master Don Juan
not at all... i'm in tonight (obviously)... but have a date tomorrow night that i set up just like this (this was an accident, i didn't intend to ask her out by mentioning the bar):
HER: What are you doing tonight?
ME: My boy wants to go to kildares tonight, but im not in the mood, i have a lot of shopping and working out to catch up on.
HER: I love kildares but it gets crazy there sometimes!
ME: Crazy? I like it because everyone actually dances instead of standing around. I saw Jack@ss the other night on MTV and the crew was at the Kildares in west chester. Made me want to see what that ones like.
HER: I've always wanted to see what the one in West Chester is like too.
ME: Well then me and you shall see tomorrow night then.
HER: Sounds good.
ME: I'll be over around 8pm; wear that skirt you were talking about.... blah blah
etc etc etc....
nothing to it...
HER: What are you doing tonight?
ME: My boy wants to go to kildares tonight, but im not in the mood, i have a lot of shopping and working out to catch up on.
HER: I love kildares but it gets crazy there sometimes!
ME: Crazy? I like it because everyone actually dances instead of standing around. I saw Jack@ss the other night on MTV and the crew was at the Kildares in west chester. Made me want to see what that ones like.
HER: I've always wanted to see what the one in West Chester is like too.
ME: Well then me and you shall see tomorrow night then.
HER: Sounds good.
ME: I'll be over around 8pm; wear that skirt you were talking about.... blah blah
etc etc etc....
nothing to it...
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
DonS said:
Same success rate as anything else, really. A couple F-closes, a couple flakes. It all depends on their IL beforehand. Usually, the chick will send me the text, actually, just like I said. Then I show up, and whatever happens happens. I am way more of an on the spot closer, myself. More often than not, Im getting naked with them, before I even have their number.
Furyguy
Senior Don Juan
Yeah it ended up working really well.
I still feel like a douchebag though.
I still feel like a douchebag though.