Furyguy
Senior Don Juan
I think I kinda just did it, and it feels really fucking lame.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Is setting up a date through texts really lame?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MisterMcGee
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It all depends on your frame with the girl. I set one up really quickly with a girl I haven't seen in ages.
MisterMcGee
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I'm 1/1 (lmao)
Over facebook:
me: hey bla bla been a long time remember me?
her: bla bla of course i remember you, howve you been?
me: ive been awesome, you know how i am. actually you don't, we gotta fix that and catch up definitely. im gonna be ___ so come by around ___ .
and how have you been? (then a joke about something she did 6-7 years ago)
her: lmfao i remember those days, we def need to catch up. and yea i'll see what im doing and let you know
bla bla ive been great
me: blabla how do you remember that! youre ridiculous. my # is ____ txt me n ill get bac kto you when i can. sound good? take it easy
her: i remember everything lmfaoo kk i'll txt you,here's my # ______ oh and add me on msn ________
thats roughly how it went over facebook. she couldnt make it for that day and she ended up coming into my work (movie theatre) as i was working and tried to make it a date (didnt even buy a movie ticket. she was like "sucks that you're busy... whens your break?" etc etc)
Over facebook:
me: hey bla bla been a long time remember me?
her: bla bla of course i remember you, howve you been?
me: ive been awesome, you know how i am. actually you don't, we gotta fix that and catch up definitely. im gonna be ___ so come by around ___ .
and how have you been? (then a joke about something she did 6-7 years ago)
her: lmfao i remember those days, we def need to catch up. and yea i'll see what im doing and let you know
bla bla ive been greatme: blabla how do you remember that! youre ridiculous. my # is ____ txt me n ill get bac kto you when i can. sound good?
take it easyher: i remember everything
lmfaoo kk i'll txt you,here's my # ______ oh and add me on msn ________thats roughly how it went over facebook. she couldnt make it for that day and she ended up coming into my work (movie theatre) as i was working and tried to make it a date (didnt even buy a movie ticket. she was like "sucks that you're busy... whens your break?" etc etc)
bukowski_merit
Master Don Juan
not at all... i'm in tonight (obviously)... but have a date tomorrow night that i set up just like this (this was an accident, i didn't intend to ask her out by mentioning the bar):
HER: What are you doing tonight?
ME: My boy wants to go to kildares tonight, but im not in the mood, i have a lot of shopping and working out to catch up on.
HER: I love kildares but it gets crazy there sometimes!
ME: Crazy? I like it because everyone actually dances instead of standing around. I saw Jack@ss the other night on MTV and the crew was at the Kildares in west chester. Made me want to see what that ones like.
HER: I've always wanted to see what the one in West Chester is like too.
ME: Well then me and you shall see tomorrow night then.
HER: Sounds good.
ME: I'll be over around 8pm; wear that skirt you were talking about.... blah blah
etc etc etc....
nothing to it...
HER: What are you doing tonight?
ME: My boy wants to go to kildares tonight, but im not in the mood, i have a lot of shopping and working out to catch up on.
HER: I love kildares but it gets crazy there sometimes!
ME: Crazy? I like it because everyone actually dances instead of standing around. I saw Jack@ss the other night on MTV and the crew was at the Kildares in west chester. Made me want to see what that ones like.
HER: I've always wanted to see what the one in West Chester is like too.
ME: Well then me and you shall see tomorrow night then.
HER: Sounds good.
ME: I'll be over around 8pm; wear that skirt you were talking about.... blah blah
etc etc etc....
nothing to it...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
DonS said:
Same success rate as anything else, really. A couple F-closes, a couple flakes. It all depends on their IL beforehand. Usually, the chick will send me the text, actually, just like I said. Then I show up, and whatever happens happens. I am way more of an on the spot closer, myself. More often than not, Im getting naked with them, before I even have their number.
Furyguy
Senior Don Juan
Yeah it ended up working really well.
I still feel like a douchebag though.
I still feel like a douchebag though.