"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is self-confidence when?

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Is self-confidence when you really don't give a **** about what people think of you? Cuz I'm pretty sure it is just I'm not convinced.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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No, self-confidence is when you KNOW people will think you are awesome.
 
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Its not about what others think of you but what you think of yourself, if you think your cool then your cool, doesnt matter what they think of you, if they feel good about your presence then they will get along with you if not it doesnt matter you cant please everyone, and your a fool if you try to.
 
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typical said:
Its not about what others think of you but what you think of yourself, if you think your cool then your cool, doesnt matter what they think of you, if they feel good about your presence then they will get along with you if not it doesnt matter you cant please everyone, and your a fool if you try to.
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People only feel good in my presence if I'm EXTREMELY relaxed, and this is as rare as a lunar eclipse. (by the way am I the only ***** in this message board or do a lot of you guys have the same problems as I do, if you do then just be open about it, its just the internet)

I've tried many things to think of myself more highly, and to no avail, and also try to make others feel comfortable, but that's hard if I'm not comfortable to begin with. Usually a cigarette helps me... caffeine helps me be more social too. I feel like I need coffee or cigarettes because in my normal state of mind I'm higly insecure and nervous.
 
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no... but guys on here pretend that it is
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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