"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is self-confidence when?

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Is self-confidence when you really don't give a **** about what people think of you? Cuz I'm pretty sure it is just I'm not convinced.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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No, self-confidence is when you KNOW people will think you are awesome.
 
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Its not about what others think of you but what you think of yourself, if you think your cool then your cool, doesnt matter what they think of you, if they feel good about your presence then they will get along with you if not it doesnt matter you cant please everyone, and your a fool if you try to.
 
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typical said:
Its not about what others think of you but what you think of yourself, if you think your cool then your cool, doesnt matter what they think of you, if they feel good about your presence then they will get along with you if not it doesnt matter you cant please everyone, and your a fool if you try to.
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People only feel good in my presence if I'm EXTREMELY relaxed, and this is as rare as a lunar eclipse. (by the way am I the only ***** in this message board or do a lot of you guys have the same problems as I do, if you do then just be open about it, its just the internet)

I've tried many things to think of myself more highly, and to no avail, and also try to make others feel comfortable, but that's hard if I'm not comfortable to begin with. Usually a cigarette helps me... caffeine helps me be more social too. I feel like I need coffee or cigarettes because in my normal state of mind I'm higly insecure and nervous.
 
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no... but guys on here pretend that it is
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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