"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is self-confidence when?

somewhatsuave

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Is self-confidence when you really don't give a **** about what people think of you? Cuz I'm pretty sure it is just I'm not convinced.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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hi2u

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No, self-confidence is when you KNOW people will think you are awesome.
 

typical

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Its not about what others think of you but what you think of yourself, if you think your cool then your cool, doesnt matter what they think of you, if they feel good about your presence then they will get along with you if not it doesnt matter you cant please everyone, and your a fool if you try to.
 
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typical said:
Its not about what others think of you but what you think of yourself, if you think your cool then your cool, doesnt matter what they think of you, if they feel good about your presence then they will get along with you if not it doesnt matter you cant please everyone, and your a fool if you try to.
People only feel good in my presence if I'm EXTREMELY relaxed, and this is as rare as a lunar eclipse. (by the way am I the only ***** in this message board or do a lot of you guys have the same problems as I do, if you do then just be open about it, its just the internet)

I've tried many things to think of myself more highly, and to no avail, and also try to make others feel comfortable, but that's hard if I'm not comfortable to begin with. Usually a cigarette helps me... caffeine helps me be more social too. I feel like I need coffee or cigarettes because in my normal state of mind I'm higly insecure and nervous.
 

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no... but guys on here pretend that it is
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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