"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is self-confidence when?

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Is self-confidence when you really don't give a **** about what people think of you? Cuz I'm pretty sure it is just I'm not convinced.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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No, self-confidence is when you KNOW people will think you are awesome.
 
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Its not about what others think of you but what you think of yourself, if you think your cool then your cool, doesnt matter what they think of you, if they feel good about your presence then they will get along with you if not it doesnt matter you cant please everyone, and your a fool if you try to.
 
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typical said:
Its not about what others think of you but what you think of yourself, if you think your cool then your cool, doesnt matter what they think of you, if they feel good about your presence then they will get along with you if not it doesnt matter you cant please everyone, and your a fool if you try to.
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People only feel good in my presence if I'm EXTREMELY relaxed, and this is as rare as a lunar eclipse. (by the way am I the only ***** in this message board or do a lot of you guys have the same problems as I do, if you do then just be open about it, its just the internet)

I've tried many things to think of myself more highly, and to no avail, and also try to make others feel comfortable, but that's hard if I'm not comfortable to begin with. Usually a cigarette helps me... caffeine helps me be more social too. I feel like I need coffee or cigarettes because in my normal state of mind I'm higly insecure and nervous.
 
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no... but guys on here pretend that it is
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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