"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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is NC for weak?

JdelaSilviera

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I mean, if the girl was completly indiferent to you and texted you saying "hi" you would respond.
Isn´t it a bit transparent that you are hurt?

I agree that no contact may be necessary, in order to forget someone, but the girl will realize that she hurt your feelings, and that she is important to you. Kind of an ego boost for her right?

What do you think...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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EvilAgenda

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No. I don't think it's for the weak. I agree with you, when you want to get over someone, the best way, and the one that worked for me, is to cut all communication with that person, and not care what anyone says or thinks.

If she feels that she hurt your feelings, oh well, she probably did, but sh*t happens. Once again, I'd not be in a situation where she txts me because I would cut all communication with her in the 1st place.

Eventually, the best "revenge" though is to go out, have fun, increase your social circle, do things you love to do. Communicate by "No Contact" that even though she was at one point a part of your universe, she was not the center of it, and you do not need her to enjoy your life.
 

RSanders219

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Why is it weak to stop acknowledging a person that disrespected you? If anything, it makes you strong. You're holding your ground.

It would be weak to continue talking to this person and let them walk all over you.
 

IamJosan

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I've thought about this too and I find that the best way to take control of the situation is to throw humor into it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

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