Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Is my girlfriend a slut?

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Hey dudes. Got something of an interesting situation on my hands here.

I'm 20. My girlfriend is going to be 28 in a few days. Now, we met in a club (I've got an ID) and, naturally, I ****ted her and said I was 25 (I have things together enough that I can pull it off). Now, after some time I broke my real age to her, and since essentially nothing changed except a number, we're still together and doing quite well. I wanted to clear that up--becuase any girl who's 28 and would knowingly start dating me is probably a ****-up. I'm aware of that.

Now, I've always had some issues with girl's sexual histories--maybe becuase I've come across some real *****s in the past--it's always something I'm wary of. This girl had slept with six guys (or so she says--I'm fairly sure she's not lying, everyone that knows her has told me that she's a "good girl") before me. Now, since she's 28, I'm not sure what I should be expecting in those terms given her age and such, so perhaps you older guys can give your opinions on wether her history is "acceptable" or not.

Thanks dudes
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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That is one every year or 2. That is not so bad. Who knows. she could have really cared for every one of those 6
 

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This girl i was with a WHILE ago turned 17 a year ago and is up around 20.
 

The Juan and only

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six? that's not what she told me last night.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'd consider you lucky. Six is nothing at that age.

I heard seven is the lifetime average in America, if that helps.
 

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On the radio they had a formula. I don't know how true it is.

Take the year the girl lost her virginity, then subtract it from her current age, then subtract out the number of years she was in a committed LTR. Then multiply that number by 2.

So if she's 28, and lost her virginity at 18, but was in a major LTR for 5 years, that's (10 years - 5)* 2 = 10 guys.

It basically says that a woman does 2 guys a year if she's not in a relationship.

Maybe that only applied to the party chick population, which listens to the radio more.

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The other thing I heard was that it was the average woman gets 8 guys in her lifetime.
 

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A girl i know told me she has had sex with 6 guys!

Shes ****ing 15!

She even cracked out the line "They were all my bfs, if that makes it any better?"

I also know a 18yr old whose had sex with 58 guys! Shocking stuff! Shes about a HB 3 too! Nice face! But a fat fat ass and body!
 

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I would go for an Anal Intruder. At 28 she should be able to handle such an abrassive move.
 

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Remember the rule of 3. Take the number of guys she claims to have slept with and multiply it by 3 and then you'll get the real number.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bourne

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Originally posted by Dust 2 Dust
Remember the rule of 3. Take the number of guys she claims to have slept with and multiply it by 3 and then you'll get the real number.
Bingo.


Biggest fear of any women is to be viewed that she is a slvt. So they will say a number wayyyy lower then it actually is.

Not all, but most.
 

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I used to lower my number sometimes, but I realized at one point that was stupid. When I got married hubby was # 12. A few of those were pointless though.
 

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im 28 and i believe that her answer was a very rare answer. be glad she isnt saying her answer is 35.(my best friends magic number)

if she lost her virginity at 16 then the odds say she only changed partners about every 2.2 yrs
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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6 guys? Damn, she can apply for sainthood.


6!

My last GF I had, while playing truth or dare, admited to having sex with over 25 guys before me.. Sounds like a lot, but she was 25.. and lost her virginity at 17... Divide 17 by 8 and you get give or take, 3 guys a year, which isn't bad... execpt she was dating a guy for 5 of thoose years .

A girl I know, who is a good friend of mine, and I wouldn't in any way classify her as a slut or a hoebag, I KNOW has slept with at least 12-15 guys and she is 22, and thoose are the ones she just doesn't mind me knowing about.
 

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Originally posted by Dust 2 Dust
Remember the rule of 3. Take the number of guys she claims to have slept with and multiply it by 3 and then you'll get the real number.
damn.. if i took that rule and applied it to my ex GF, that means... she slept with my entire senior class :confused: :(
 

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I don't ask women how many guys they've slept with. Ignorance is bliss :D

It also lets me refuse to tell her how many women I've slept with.
 

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with my ex, I kinda had already put two and two together when everytime she talked about this guy she "used to know" and I would be like "oh, such and such you told me about the other day" and she woudl say "no, it's someone else".. damn near everytime.

then I would say, joking of course because she's cute when she gets flustered... "so did you suck his ****?" And she would always say "That's none of your business"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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