"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is my ex in a cult?

MedDude

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Backstory on her: she grew up in a rich family and hasn't had to struggle for much. Her father is narcissistic and raised her in performance based manner. Due to this she is focused on her looks and how she is viewed by people. This has beld in to her adult life because she lacked an effective father figure and does not possess a strong identity.
Fast forward to now: she mentions to me she has been seeing a "mentor" whom she pays for "sessions" (insert derranged sexual comment here). This man helps her and others with spiritual guidance as well as personal therapy. Keep in mind, he is not licensed for a goddamn thing. He's just "knowledgeable" I'm told. She sees him two days a week and once a month with his other students for extended sessions.
She says he has convinced her she no longer needs her antidepressants. He also suggests she write long emails nightly to update her spiritual and personal progress. This is also in conjunction with hour long Bible study sessions done daily.
He also has pointed out to her her manipulative tendencies, an inadequacy he is able to help her with according to him. She has been seeing this mentor for over a year with little progress and continues to struggle. He also had her and the group write a 118 page paper when he felt they didn't want it enough and that he was going to stop the group.
There is much more to this but I wanted to get opinions on this so far.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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jaymbrs

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Why do you care about what your ex is doing?
 

Machine10033

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That entire situation sounds creepy..... good thing she’s your ex... plenty of puss not in cults out there !
 
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