Is it wussy to be..

[tryst type]

Thoughtful? ie makin/buying really small items to highlight a previous moment with a girl that you've been dating/gf?

Personal example: fooling around pretty hard one night and all her bobby pins happened to disappear. 2 days later noticed a handful pack cheap at the store, bought and gave to her with a wink.

 

[LeComteDeMonteCristo]

Stop worrying about being "wussy". If you felt it was the right thing to do then it was the right thing to do.

Just let go of any expectation that you will get anything in return and don't make such a big deal out of such a simple thing.

 

[Obsidian]

i probably wouldn't do it, but I don't know what the right answer is. Probably depends on how long you've been going out. (the longer --> the more thoughtful you can be)

 

[PrinceBeavis]

...What Obsidian said.

 

[tryst type]

anyone else?

 

[War Against Betaism]

There's nothing wrong with buying a girl something, in fact there's nothing wrong with complimenting her too. The common misconception this board has is that we have to be jackasses in order to attract women and we can't show a hint of niceness. There's two kinds of nice; seeking one's approval in order to be accepted, and being thoughtful and considerate. What most nice guys fall into is the former, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with the latter. And there is a huge difference between the two; women will decipher which nice you're doing through body language, voice tone, etc. Just don't milk your niceness.

 

[MushroomGod]

There's nothing wrong with buying a girl something, in fact there's nothing wrong with complimenting her too. The common misconception this board has is that we have to be jackasses in order to attract women and we can't show a hint of niceness. There's two kinds of nice; seeking one's approval in order to be accepted, and being thoughtful and considerate. What most nice guys fall into is the former, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with the latter. And there is a huge difference between the two; women will decipher which nice you're doing through body language, voice tone, etc. Just don't milk your niceness.

Very good advice, The Alpha male is considerate and thoughtful along with all the other qualities.